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3 hours ago, LeeDenny said:

A good bra fitter is worth their weight in gold. @SuprSuprElevated It's like getting a mammogram without the pain; they've seen them all. 

I'm sure you're right.  No, I have never done it, never felt the need before now.  Tbh, I would be surprised if there is a <good> fitter within 4 counties of here.  Probably have to go to Chicago.  Don't think I would trust the local Macy's or whatever. 

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On ‎2‎/‎13‎/‎2019 at 2:38 PM, Coffeecup said:

Glad to hear that your friend got in touch with you.  Sounds like she is pretty sick and is preoccupied with that. I hope she gets better.

Thanks, @Coffeecup.   My friend doesn't like to show her vulnerability but I know she's scared.

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I live in a part of the country that has this sort of weather from time to time, and I am stunned every time I see videos such as this.  I am not a 'shrinking violet' sort of driver, and I would never, never drive like this in weather.  These people should be prosecuted, if they're not dead.

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Just wanted to say that I send Rick Domeier condolences. 

IF you had great parents, when you lose that second one, that last living parent -- even if they'e been ill, it can be like losing the last one person you knew that no mater what would listen, support you and "have your back" -- as they say. It's the last living person who gave you your wings from childhood, and helped and supported you into becoming the person who are. It's a hole that's never filled. A big hole -- and a little hole at the same time.

I think, IF you had good parents, you always miss them. The remembrances are fond. But their spirit being with you is not the same as, and can't hold a candle to, a phone call and a voice.

As the great children's TV host Mr. (Fred) Rogers once said, "Would you just take, along with me, ten seconds to think of the people who have helped you become who you are." 

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My husband is an incredibly stoic person, rarely showing emotion.  He was extremely close with his mother, and it took a few weeks after her death before he broke.  It was the first and so far only time I've seen him cry.  He broke my heart when he said "I'm an orphan now, there's no one left in my family".  I knew he meant his original, nuclear family.  I haven't experienced the death of both parents yet, and I'm not sure how it will feel, but I loathe when people ask how old a parent was, then give the standard "oh, well they had a good life" answer.  Your parent is always that person that nurtured and raised you (if you were fortunate).  The elderly, perhaps sick person that died is only a small fraction of their life.

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2 hours ago, SuprSuprElevated said:

My husband is an incredibly stoic person, rarely showing emotion.  He was extremely close with his mother, and it took a few weeks after her death before he broke.  It was the first and so far only time I've seen him cry.  He broke my heart when he said "I'm an orphan now, there's no one left in my family".  I knew he meant his original, nuclear family.  I haven't experienced the death of both parents yet, and I'm not sure how it will feel, but I loathe when people ask how old a parent was, then give the standard "oh, well they had a good life" answer.  Your parent is always that person that nurtured and raised you (if you were fortunate).  The elderly, perhaps sick person that died is only a small fraction of their life.

I miss my parents every day, we had our problems, but they were always in my corner and I knew they loved me. So many times I wish I could call my mom, sigh.

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3 hours ago, SuprSuprElevated said:

I've seen a few of these before, but to see them all in a group is rather nice. 

A glimpse of heaven on earth when the Lord returns!!

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On 2/13/2019 at 6:54 PM, SuprSuprElevated said:

I have the opposite problem.  I have an above average circumference, so naturally, it is assumed that I need a double KK cup size.  I don't.

I first saw the K-cup and thought of a Keurig, one of the signs that I've watched too much Q in my life.

On 2/13/2019 at 7:37 PM, lovemesomejoolery said:

I am weird - I buy all new bras every January.  My go-to is a Bali style that I have worn for years.  Before that I wore Le Mystere - the Dream Tisha.  I got tired of spending so much on a bra (even though the Le Mystere brand fit me better than any bra ever has!), so that's why I went to Bali.  For a time, I got my bras at Soma.....all I can say is that their bras are no better or worse than the Bali.

Sizing is NOT consistent from brand to brand or even with different styles within any given brand.  At least I have found that to be the case.  I've read somewhere that most women wear the wrong size.......I had the right size but maybe the wrong bra!  I liked Soma because you could go in the store, be fitted, and they would get different bras for you to try on instead of you getting dressed and undressed to go get different styles.  Once I knew the style and size, I'd order them online.  Soma discontinued my bra, so that is why I went back to my Bali.

I would not try a new brand by shopping online.....I would always go in a store and try it on first.

Over the years I've tried a few different bras, but I always go back to my Flower Bali. 

Your description regarding sizing with different styles even within a brand is spot on. It's so frustrating. One brand said I was a D. Breezies sizing recommended a B. I'm not ordering Breezies again, ever. 

I've saved the ThirdLove link. I might try them out later. 

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On ‎2‎/‎17‎/‎2019 at 4:19 PM, SuprSuprElevated said:

I've seen a few of these before, but to see them all in a group is rather nice. 

Thank you!!  This is fantastic.  Love it!

Hi All,

I don't know where to ask this question, so forgive me.... does anyone know where "life below zero" is now located?

I cannot find it.  Thank you!

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back to the bra convo,  I got a mailer from Soma over the weekend , new bra coming out, looks like it might be similar to the Rachel sort of , going to check it out at end of the month. 

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Rain, rain, flood watches, floods, lightning, thunder, more rain . . . I'm looking forward to a time when the weather is so calm that it isn't the lead story on the local news every day.

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32 minutes ago, Coffeecup said:

Rain, rain, flood watches, floods, lightning, thunder, more rain . . . I'm looking forward to a time when the weather is so calm that it isn't the lead story on the local news every day.

We have lots of snow in MN (that may result in flooding in some areas in the spring), but I think flooding is scarier.  Hope you can stay safe.

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1 hour ago, Thumper said:

We have lots of snow in MN (that may result in flooding in some areas in the spring), but I think flooding is scarier.  Hope you can stay safe.

Thanks Thumper. I have a pile of sandbags ready to put in front of my basement door, if I see water advancing toward my house. I live next to a large creek that is prone to flooding. This rain every day is ridiculous. The ground is so soggy, after a couple of weeks of rain,  it's like walking on a wet sponge.

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7 hours ago, Coffeecup said:

Thanks Thumper. I have a pile of sandbags ready to put in front of my basement door, if I see water advancing toward my house. I live next to a large creek that is prone to flooding. This rain every day is ridiculous. The ground is so soggy, after a couple of weeks of rain,  it's like walking on a wet sponge.

I can relate. My yard is so soggy from months and months of rainy days and now snow (with more rain on top), that I'm expecting to see Swamp Thing rise from the mud any second now...

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On 2/16/2019 at 6:34 PM, SuprSuprElevated said:

I live in a part of the country that has this sort of weather from time to time, and I am stunned every time I see videos such as this.  I am not a 'shrinking violet' sort of driver, and I would never, never drive like this in weather.  These people should be prosecuted, if they're not dead.

And people wonder why I don't drive. I hope none of these idiots get paid a cent from the insurance company.

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I'm having a bad time this week. I mentioned on here many times that I'm a hypochondriac. I also mentioned that several months ago I found a lump in my breast and got an ultrasound. They found some cysts and a fibroadenoma (benign growth that is common for younger women) and told me to come back in six months to get the fibroadenoma imaged again to see if it would have to be removed. I also believe I told the story on here about how the ultrasound technician was very rude to me and refused to give me my test results and then laughed in my face when I asked why.

Well today is exactly six months from then. I've gotten letters from the ultrasound place and my doctor telling me I have to come back in to get it imaged again. I can already tell that it got bigger and it has also become painful. This can happen with fibroadenomas but it is still making me worry about it. But because I'm terrified that they made a mistake and it's actually cancer, and also I'm especially terrified because of how I was treated at the ultrasound place, I can't get the courage to go to the appointment. I feel like I will drop dead of a heart attack from fear if I go. It was already bad enough the first time around.

I asked the doctor at the ultrasound place if she was 100% sure it wasn't cancer. She said that she was positive it wasn't because of the shape and said that if she had any doubt, she would do a biopsy to make sure. She must look at this stuff all day so one would think she knows what she's talking about. But because of how they treated me I'm afraid there was some mistake and they got it mixed up with someone else's file or they misread it or something.

I'm also concerned with why I suddenly started getting all these things in the first place. As far as I know I didn't have any of these a couple of years ago and suddenly I got cysts and a fibroadenoma out of nowhere. Why? Is it just a getting older thing? Is it because of certain medications? Is it from my vitamin D deficiency? Or is it a sign of something else?

Either way I'm terrified and can barely concentrate on anything this week.

I want to go to a different ultrasound place but they need a referral from the doctor's office and the doctor's office wants me to come in to get the referral, so that makes it even more complicated, plus having to forward the medical records and all.

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@BuyMoreAndSave, I understand your anxiety.  It is very scary to go back for more tests.  I suggest you go back -- you may get a different technician who is more sensitive.  Keep in mind, as my sister who worked in health care said, these folks are so used to it day to day,  they are not always sensitized to how it feels to the new patient. (Not that it is right!)

If it still doesn't feel right, then you can proceed to the next steps of going elsewhere.

As always, there may be others here with better experience/advice.

Let us know how you are doing.

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@BuyMoreAndSave when I go to my ultrasound place i ask at the reception desk for a disk copy and a report copy. They usually make a note on my file. Sometimes they forget. Regardless, I tell the tech before the procedure that I want a cd copy of the exam and a report copy. The oblige with the cd copy on the spot and then tell me report will come in mail. Then on the way out the door with my cd copy I stop at registration desk and ask how i can get copy of report from today’s exam. I follow instructions given. If I don’t receive report in timely manner thru the mail I call and request again. Its all very tedious but I get what I want.

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10 hours ago, BuyMoreAndSave said:

I'm also concerned with why I suddenly started getting all these things in the first place. As far as I know I didn't have any of these a couple of years ago and suddenly I got cysts and a fibroadenoma out of nowhere. Why? Is it just a getting older thing? Is it because of certain medications? Is it from my vitamin D deficiency? Or is it a sign of something else?

I promise you I am not being flippant here, but maybe, just maybe, it could be related to stress.  I know you've been going through a difficult period, and stress often impacts our physical health in ways we don't even realize.  Just a thought.

Please reconsider biting the bullet and doing the ultrasound.  In my experience, the not-knowing is the worst of stressors.

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11 hours ago, Thumper said:

@BuyMoreAndSave, I understand your anxiety.  It is very scary to go back for more tests.  I suggest you go back -- you may get a different technician who is more sensitive.  Keep in mind, as my sister who worked in health care said, these folks are so used to it day to day,  they are not always sensitized to how it feels to the new patient. (Not that it is right!)

If it still doesn't feel right, then you can proceed to the next steps of going elsewhere.

As always, there may be others here with better experience/advice.

Let us know how you are doing.

Thanks ❤️ Yes I think you said that to me when I posted my original story. I do want to try to go to the other ultrasound place though. My husband and MIL have been there for tests and they both say the staff there are really nice. I just wish there weren't extra steps involved.

10 hours ago, Tshopstoo said:

@BuyMoreAndSave when I go to my ultrasound place i ask at the reception desk for a disk copy and a report copy. They usually make a note on my file. Sometimes they forget. Regardless, I tell the tech before the procedure that I want a cd copy of the exam and a report copy. The oblige with the cd copy on the spot and then tell me report will come in mail. Then on the way out the door with my cd copy I stop at registration desk and ask how i can get copy of report from today’s exam. I follow instructions given. If I don’t receive report in timely manner thru the mail I call and request again. Its all very tedious but I get what I want.

I didn't know you could do that! I will start doing that because they didn't give me any copies last time.

5 hours ago, letusprocrastinate said:

@BuyMoreAndSave, I have cysts too (although they're congregating in one breast and not the other). I also have a bunch of cysts on my head.  It's a family trait.

I know another person who has cysts in her breasts, so it's not an uncommon thing.

I think it is pretty common. I have a friend who's older than me and she said that women get all kinds of lumps in their breasts all the time and it's almost never cancer. I also think my mom mentioned having breast cysts once, but since I'm estranged from her I can't ask her. In any case the doctor said I have fibrocystic breasts so the tissue is more dense, and that it is common (~50% of women) but also increases my risk of breast cancer 😞

I also do get a lot of cysts in general. I have skin cysts all over my torso. If I use any products with fragrances or colorants in that area, they get inflamed and sometimes one swells up with fluid and I have to go to the dermatologist and get it drained. I also got an ovarian cyst last year. Maybe it's just a genetic thing.

1 hour ago, walnutqueen said:

I promise you I am not being flippant here, but maybe, just maybe, it could be related to stress.  I know you've been going through a difficult period, and stress often impacts our physical health in ways we don't even realize.  Just a thought.

Please reconsider biting the bullet and doing the ultrasound.  In my experience, the not-knowing is the worst of stressors.

It's possible. I have gotten a lot of stress related illnesses. I have a feeling it's related to a medication I took twice this year. I noticed the first cysts a couple of months after taking it the first time, and I noticed the fibroadenoma got bigger a couple of months after taking it the second time.

Thanks for all your responses you guys. You are truly the best!

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