In Pose's slight defense, I think the inclusion of white dudes is more than a network note. In some of the pre-release publicity, the show creators did talk about how they want Pose to center on a key paradox of 1980s America: how, even just in NYC, you have the excesses of Wall Street on the one hand, and the thriving-but-socioeconomically-devastated communities that are the drag houses on the other. This suggests that the show might even be interested in demonstrating how the rise of neoliberalism in Reagan-era America has impacted marginal communities. (Indeed, one critique of a film like Paris is Burning, Pose's obvious predecessor, was that it tends to show drag and house culture in a kind of bubble, and thus made the balls seem like escapist fantasies as opposed to, say, a survival tactic in late stage capitalism).
Now, does this mean that the show has indeed made this link? Probably not, and at least not in Season 1. I suspect that the show also found itself grappling with how to do so. Early on, many watchers were worried that Stan would actually end up harming or even murdering Angel, which would certainly show in a very literal way how capitalism has a disproportionately destructive effect on people of color. But the show runners have said, I think, they will not do this. So the show may still be trying to figure out how to make better thematic use of the juxtaposition of rich-white-yuppiedom with house culture. In the meantime, though, you are indeed right to say that the whole Stan and Patty storyline is OHMIGWAD SO BORING.