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  1. Empress1

    S08.E12: You Give Love A Bad Name

    Yeah, I didn't get the impression that she was talking about her son when she said that; I thought she was talking about the show as a whole. And she's right. I'm surprised they let that on the show. It's the first time I can recall it being stated so plainly.
  2. The baby's name is Pilar Jhena. I like the name Pilar.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    Oh! Gotcha. 🙂
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    And the Pearson girls won't die if someone else drives them to Girl Scouts. Kids carpool to events all the time - in fact, that would be a way to lighten that insane whiteboard. "Hey, [Tess's friend's parent(s)], Randall and I both have to work late on Thursday, can Tess bum a ride with you to [activity]?" Yes, being at major events (performances, championship games, etc.) is important but individual practices or meetings are not. Parents only attend those if there's not enough time for them to leave and come back. Part of the problem is the show has the Pearsons in a bubble (in addition to not having the girls do chores, which I maintain is bananas but that's not unique to This Is Us) - are Randall and Beth the only people they know? Aren't there other parents? The girls are in school; even if they're not tight-tight with the other parents, surely they know them well enough to ask if the girls can get a lift to this or that activity. (I often think this when TV tries to do the working mom thing - the working mom is usually the only working mom she knows, which is completely antithetical to my own experience. Even if a character's former circle was all SAHMs, surely there would be other working mothers at her job.) Both my parents had careers. So did all - literally all - my friends' parents. In some cases they had very demanding careers. Both my brother and I did a lot of activities. Because all the parents worked, all the parents formed a sort of village - not everyone was a friend, but you could certainly call around until you found someone on the Little League team or in the school choir who could take your kid along with theirs. As we got into our teens, we were more independent - I grew up in Philly so I would take public transportation. The bus that stopped at the corner went right to my school, so I'd take that to weekend choir practice or whatever. (I recognize that no such option exists in affluent suburban NJ where the Pearsons live but that's the kind of environment where kids get cars when they turn 16, so they'd still be less dependent on their parents to take them places.) It could take three hours to go between NYC and Philly if there's traffic. It's two hours without. And a ton of people are leaving the city and going south in evening rush hour, so frankly even without the accident Beth spoke of, I'd believe she spent three hours in traffic. (I've spent my entire life going between the two - half my family is from one, the other half is from the other, and I've lived in both.) That commute is brutal to do every day though. I used to work with a woman whose then-fiance was doing his residency in Philly, so she lived there with him and commuted to NYC. She asked to work remotely once a week, was denied, and quit immediately because the commute was killing her and it was expensive.
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    House Hunters: Buying in the USA

    I love seeing long-standing friendships. My mother has friendships that span 50 years. My grandmothers did too. I have 20-year friendships (since my tweens/teens) and I hope they last forever. I just love seeing that kind of stuff. She said her friend had helped her through cancer and I know she did, you could just tell. Her friend was genuinely happy that her friend was still here and getting things she wanted. When they were cruising on their bikes and one cut off the other one, the other one yelled "You just cut me off!" and I cracked up. They seemed like such nice people. Also, the hunter said she wanted to be near her own mother because she was helping to care for her. That's a family that looks out for each other.
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    House Hunters: Buying in the USA

    I found the wife really annoying, both because I didn't care for the sound of her voice and because she just seemed kind of dour. I liked the bird wallpaper too - I don't think I would have chosen it but it did go with the house. I just saw one about a cancer survivor in Camden, NJ. She said she promised herself if she survived cancer she'd buy herself a motorcycle and a new house. She and her best friend went cruising on their bikes together. I loved their friendship. She had a modest budget and didn't want the world, which was lovely - she wanted a small yard for less upkeep and enough room for her 7 grandkids to visit. I liked her a lot - she seemed to have a lovely spirit.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    Friday Night Lights was one. Eric and Tami Taylor loved, liked, and respected each other. They had some big fights but they always came together. Actually, their big fights were similar to Beth and Randall's - Eric's career had always come first, I don't think Tami worked, and then she started working and her career took off as he got some big opportunities too. So they were in a place of, should we do what we've always done and put you first, or should we do things differently? I am Team It's OK to Ask Your Host for a Phone Charger. It might be a generational thing. I liken it to asking to use someone's phone to check in with the babysitter, in the days of land lines. (I don't personally know anyone who doesn't have a phone charger in their car, especially someone with kids who need to be checked on, but the show said what it said.) That scene with one of the parents giving 13-year-old Deja her clean laundry was baffling to me. Deja and Tess are old enough to do at LEAST their own laundry, and they could do the family's laundry too. (I had a friend who, as an adult, sends out his laundry because his chore growing up was laundry for his whole family and he's sick of laundry.) My mother taught me to do my laundry when I was 10 and she has done it exactly one time since, and it's because I'd just had surgery. Randall doing dishes was like ... really? All three kids are old enough to load a dishwasher. Tess and Deja are old enough to cook or at LEAST heat up meals and get their own lunches together. All the members of that family should be helping to run the household at this point. The two older girls could even help Annie with her homework. I helped my brother with his homework. Even if Beth or Randall were a SAHP, they should teach the kids to do chores because those are life skills. One of my best friends has never wanted kids. I've known her since high school and she was clear then. She's never faltered. She's married; they don't have kids. (People kept asking her "What if you meet a man who wants kids? What will you do?" And she'd be like " ... Not marry him, because we'd be fundamentally incompatible.") She had a pretty idyllic childhood and while she works, her career is pretty family-friendly. She just doesn't want kids, so she doesn't have any. It's that simple. She has a full, good life - it's the life she wants. It's a pet peeve of mine when people assume women who don't want kids (because men who don't want kids rarely get this shit) are damaged somehow (although I will say, I think given what Kevin knows about Zoe's past, I think that was a fair question). I liked when Zoe was like "Nope, just don't." Nice to see Eddie Kaye Thomas as the other father in the NICU. I can't remember the last thing I saw him in - it really might have been the American Pie franchise.
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    House Hunters: Buying in the USA

    They said they were collectors but they didn't say they had a business. Could be!
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    House Hunters: Buying in the USA

    I thought he was SO unattractive. And yeah, if you can spend $750K on a house (and I believe they spent way less), you can outsource your maintenance. Or SHE could cut the grass. (I used to work with someone who was the youngest of four sisters and mowing the lawn was her chore growing up. She mowed the lawn when she got married, too.) I did laugh when his girlfriend* pointed out that he was wearing pink shorts when he talked shit about the pink lights. *He wanted to make it official after one date? that would have given me tremendous pause.
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    S05.E15: #JustakidfromCompton

    And I've known people who DON'T deserve to be where they are - they're not qualified at all. No skills, no relevant experience, in some cases no education ... they're just there because they're somebody's kid or nephew or family friend. I saw Michelle Obama speak on her book tour and one of the things she said that stuck with me is "I've sat at tables of high-powered mediocrity." Like once she, who IS smart and qualified, got a seat at the table, she realized just how much of a hustle "the table" is. It's just rich white dudes who have coasted along for so long they have no idea how average they actually are. I loved when Ruby said straight up that bootstrapping is a myth. It is. It's one of the most pervasive myths in America, but it's a myth nonetheless.
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    S05.E11: In Loving Virtue

    When they both pointed out the door in the studio, I fell out. On soap operas (which this is), nosebleeds always mean brain tumors. That's what I'm thinking for Andre.
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    S08.E12: You Give Love A Bad Name

    Yep. Since he's a self-described introvert, I thought the same thing. Odds are good he feels most comfortable around small groups of people he knows well, which is not this group (even though he does seem to like the other couples - there were some moments where he was shown to be genuinely laughing and having a good time). He's got to be "on" and having fairly serious conversations all the time, which is probably draining. All of them describe filming as stressful.
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    S08.E12: You Give Love A Bad Name

    I agree with all this. I think it was a wrap for Will when Jasmine pulled the "70/30 on bills and that's a compromise" thing, and things only declined with the "you grew up in poverty, ew" and "you won't make any money coaching" stuff. I don't blame Will for not being into Jasmine - why would you want to be with someone who looks down on you and doesn't support what you want to do? I don't think Keith is lazy either. Working and going to school at the same time is hard (I've done it), and when asked to step up in the kitchen, he did. Kristine did say she dated a wealthy guy who took care of her but he also didn't treat her well, and I don't think she'd have that issue with Keith. Stephanie said herself that life gets stressful. I don't doubt that filming the show is stressful (I'd hate it), but eventually someone is going to lose a job or a parent will get sick or they'll buy a house or have a kid (stress around good life events is still stress), and he's going to react the same way because that's how he reacts to stress. That's what she's signing up for, unless she speaks up and he agrees to look at different ways of managing his stress and anger.
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    S05.E15: #JustakidfromCompton

    Funnily enough, on grown-ish Dre just cut Zoe off! Even without Zoe's college tuition, private school in LA for three kids has got to run them at least $75K - $100K a year. Harvard Westlake will run you nearly $40K a year. Bow likely pulls down around $400K a year; I can't remember how senior Dre is supposed to be, but senior ad guys make good money. That was SO DUMB. Listen, let someone give me some free money and all you'll hear is "thank you." Anthony Anderson does use the hashtag #justakidfromcompton on IG.
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    S08.E12: You Give Love A Bad Name

    Kristine probably had a nipple slip out. I feel the same way. I just want to shake her sometimes. Get mad! Show some gumption! It would be good for her and I bet $5 it would completely fuck Luke up. I think the only time she showed any is when Luke said he didn't want her to get hurt and she said "I AM hurt." I was proud of her for that. I like that next week her friends say straight up that she looks miserable. She does. When she says Luke checks all her boxes, I don't even think she looks them in the eye when she says it. And ... a man who is repulsed (his words, and according to her he's told her "lots of times" that he's not attracted to her) by you checks your boxes? Really? I don't like Jasmine but I agree with her that your spouse should desire you. Will is not, and will not be, that guy for her, but that doesn't mean she doesn't deserve it. I agree with whoever said what's the big deal about decision day for the couples who are getting along. Kristine and Keith and Stephanie and AJ are clearly going to stay married, and they should. I think Kristine is a bit more on the fence than Keith is but not so much so that she wants out 8 weeks in. AJ is really unattractive to me, in looks and personality (I thought he was average-looking before and the more his personality came through over the season, especially the last few episodes, the less attractive he became), but Stephanie is attracted to him and she's said straight up that she just wants to be married, so she'll put up with a lot to say she has a husband. And she does seem to like him. He's clearly not going anywhere because he never wants to eat alone again (and I never want to hear about it again, my God).
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