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  1. kassa

    S11.E14: Lost in translation

    Did they order their own food, though? I might have missed it if they did. I took it as a planned "event" dinner that had disregarded one of the guests. If she had a menu and didn't go for non-fish protein, that's on her.
  2. kassa

    S11.E14: Lost in translation

    My friend's husband had the same cancer Greg has and it's a rough, rough road. (He chose chemo in addition to/not instead of vegetables). Caretakers have a hard time, absolutely. But Nene wasn't snippy or or irritable, she didn't retreat -- she put on a PERFORMANCE of her displeasure at multiple opportunities. It would be one thing if she was unnaturally quiet and kind of a downer in energy level from her usual life of the party self, but quite another to still demand to be the focus of the party in the state she was in. I practically cheered when they basically ignored her. That's the approach with passive aggressive people just DEMANDING that you suck up to them to find out what's wrong so that they can center themselves. Could be she tried to stay away and was ordered to attend, and they recognized that her open contempt was for the show runners and not them. I give Kandi a pass on the food thing. She was hangry. If I've spent 20 hrs on planes and in airports, I need something to EAT. And if you serve me food you know in advance I don't eat (seafood), a handful of side veg isn't going to cure the hangry. And the people setting up the dinner knew she wouldn't eat most of it, which has got to be annoying after x years on the show. I'm going to assume there would have been things on the menu that she would have happily eaten, but they were not provided.
  3. Another option is an approach I've used successfully with someone like Danielle: quizzical look followed by "what a thing to say." Then NOTHING. A mildly interested/puzzled gaze back at them. You've absorbed the "hit" but not given them anything to bat back to you. Most any response to "what a thing to say" makes them look like a major bitch. Would have worked for Jennifer when Marge made the comment about her husband, would have worked for Marge when Danielle brought up her kids. Basically, first rule of "win a fight with an instigator" club is don't offer anything that furthers the confrontation they're determined to have. The likely response is something like "Yeah I said it" and which you shrug and follow Brindawalsh's advice above. They've been answered and dismissed.
  4. kassa

    S06.E16: Au Revoir!

    I wish Laura had spoken up more, but she did appear to leave the room when he did it, fall silent, or groan, common responses of younger women to unwanted attention. Traditionally, "banter" involves both people's participation, but while he was throwing it at her, he either didn't notice or didn't care that she wasn't responding in kind. And the thing about "banter" in the workplace is that you can do it in earshot of the boss (maybe not purposely, but not career damaging if you do!) And yet he always waited until they were alone as opposed to, say, when Kate might be around. Because I suspect she would have been quick with a "watch it." He's a quirky dude, but there's a lot of passive aggressiveness there and a tendency to quickly pivot to an aggrieved "I guess they're not as SPIRITUAL as I am" take that... isn't very spiritual. Basically a spoiled kid with a great gift. He might grow out of it given a combination of circumstances. There was something about the "confession" of his body insecurity that seemed simultaneously true (background story) and performative (sharing it as a plot point). Maybe he decided to just overcome it, show his body in the gold speedo and feel like he put it behind him. Or maybe it was a minor insecurity that he played up so viewers would find it endearing and blow him kisses for his bravery instead of ragging on his body on the internet. Seemed like somebody with a genuine enough complex to "confess" wouldn't put the speedo on, guest request or not. I know it's "anything for the tip" but you have an actual stripper on board and Josiah could have plead his religion or done a joke costume or something the guests would have accepted.
  5. Tre laughed with delight at Danielle going after Margaret. I could buy the talking head support as being done for her part on the show, but she also gets a genuine kick out of Danielle so long as she's going after somebody else. They're cut from the same cloth temperamentally and morally.
  6. I call bull on just how strict/traditional an upbringing she got from her family. I live a pretty secular life but I can't think of anybody I know who would make the jerk off gesture a) on camera; b) in front of their father; or c) on camera in front of their father. And there wasn't the excuse of drunkenness that day (unless she day drinks). Not that public drunkenness is typical of strict/traditional/conservative/religious folks of any denomination, either.
  7. Back in my day, Jennifer's lip look was called a "mistake." My spidey senses tell me that the family is putting the arm on her for some of her Housewives money. But obviously she'd prefer putting it away for college funds designer outlet garbage. This is what, her third season? If she mentioned kids in the first season I don't remember. Then last year it was "my stepkids are estranged from me and all I want is them back in my life because I was their mother from __ to ___" (Note: I fully endorse considering children you helped raise "your" children). But now this year it's "as a mother" this "as a mother" that. The distinction is fascinating. And it's probably leading somewhere, even though when she was harping at her husband about her ex's estrangement from his son I wanted to join him in saying "LEAVE IT ALONE!!" There obviously are reasons they're not sharing, and they sound devastating. Too devastating to be a plot point on a reality show. If you're walking around in public with it stuck in your mouth as you suckle it, it's a pacifier. I try not to comment on kids, so I'll just say... these kids are not being well served. By their parents in general, and more specifically, by being showcased on this show. Re: Theresa latching onto Danielle and Jennifer. The major thing they have in common is they've all publicly declared that when they're hurt, ANY angry/hurtful action or lie is perfectly appropriate under the circumstances. They truly believe (and live) this. They see it as perfectly reasonable, which is why they're toxic to be around. And they're incapable of seeing fallout from their actions as anything other than the other person's problem.
  8. kassa

    S02.E03: Power of Veto #1

    As I recall he was saying what a whiz he was at connecting directly with people while the black people sitting directly in front of him were thinking "CERTAIN people." Somebody else was there (Tom?) who also didn't respond as enthusiastically as I think he expected. I actually thought he was trying to start drama, and it was a wise decision to not give it to him.
  9. kassa

    S02.E03: Power of Veto #1

    Shout out to the editors for the wide shot as Mooch was praising Trump and Kandi and Ricky just chewed their food and stared at him. Far better than cutaways (which you can't trust)
  10. kassa

    S02.E03: Power of Veto #1

    I love Kandi, but she's definitely somebody who laughs when she's nervous. Armchair psychology, but given her mother (and her own temper) I assume it's a habit she picked up to deflect rising tension in situations she's not particularly invested in. When she's invested she'll walk away because she knows her temper, once activated, is pretty wild, and it's obviously something she consciously avoids giving way to (mostly). I'm not sure why she couldn't manage an "I'm not sure what you thought you heard or saw, but we never had a problem with you. " She tends not to like drama, though, so maybe Tamar was over the top on the tour and the butt of some jokes because of it, and now she sees that dynamic appearing again and doesn't care to indulge. Tamar did make some comment about how they (presumably xscape, not just Kandi) were too conceited. I hope they send Tom home. The sad trombone act is oppressive. If Scaramooch and Ricky Williams are funnier than the comedian... that's not good. Cupcake's energy annoys me. Kato surprisingly doesn't bug (except the cue card stuff). You really do appreciate the reality show people who know how to provide narrative. I really like the purple hair. It's an excellent shade that almost looks like it should be a human hair color.
  11. kassa

    S10:E1 Meri, On Her Own...

    The dynamic around that table was fascinating. Commentary has focused on Meri vs everybody, but Christine ordered Kody to "stop" three times and Robyn literally told him to shut up. I know in past seasons people have surmised that off camera he was more controlling than he cared to show, but If it was true, it doesn't seem to be working any more. They shut him down to the point he had to leave the room. Poor Ysabel. They are torturing her over stopping something she has no power over, putting her through physical suffering. If surgery is likely inevitable, let her have high school without the discomfort of the brace and the time spent on the useless "training" now, before whatever physical limitations she may face after surgery. Investigate the surgery and see what exercises will help her bounce back quicker and stronger from it. Find people who have had it and live their best lives. i don't mind the catfishing storyline. I understand they're omitting the infidelity aspect, but I can see where Meri wants people to understand that this person is an actual predator, and predators succeed because they are really good and thorough about what they do. Yes, her faults were used against her, but it wasn't casually done - it was a full scale operation by someone who does this full time. She wasn't simply betrayed by a jerk - she was targeted by a skilled manipulator. And I don't doubt for a second that Kody would fall for somebody posing as a sweet fundamentalist gal looking for plural marriage (especially if she just inherited a lot of $$/property from a deceased parent/husband and wanted to bring it to share with the family she never had cause she can't have kids).
  12. kassa

    S06.E13: I Said I Got It!

    Yup. The fresh start with Ross would have been a great time to approach him and say "You know, Ross, I think I've proven I can do all the basic deck work, but what I'd really love to learn while I have this yachting opportunity is working the anchor/docking/x.y.z. I'd love to watch a couple up close and then take it on for a charter or two so you have somebody else on board you can call on who's fully trained and can pitch in if needed." Her grievances were legitimate with Bosun #1, but I think Ross would have responded positively to direct, businesslike requests for more training/advancement. Instead, she sabotaged herself, leading to him commiserating with the bros. Not a fan of the bro stuff in general, but like Kate and Josiah, most people would rather be around people who are a) competent; b) not a massive drag/energy suck. Ross thinks of her as competent, but he isolates her because of her attitude.
  13. kassa

    S11.E11: A Mother’s Love

    If Cynthia moves to LA full time, it would make more sense than pretending to still live in Atlanta. I like her and would want her to stay on my tv however we can keep her.
  14. kassa

    S11.E11: A Mother’s Love

    Another aspect of Noelle's situation that just occurred to me... her mom is really into this new guy. She moved to Atlanta to be with Peter. This guy is based in LA (I think). There may have been talk of relocating, especially if Noelle herself was going to be at school and not home. Which means even "coming home" in future might be a radical change. At that point she'd have school in DC, a Mom in LA, a Dad in NYC, and a stepdad/boyfriend in Charlotte. And that means decisions about where to live herself on vacations and eventually permanently. For somebody who's evidently a big homebody, that has to be incredibly daunting. Is there any reason why the powers that be wouldn't permit Cynthia to transfer to RHoBH? Except for fear her leaving would damage RHoA. She, Teddy and Kyle might be too mellow a threesome, I suppose.
  15. kassa

    S11.E11: A Mother’s Love

    I hope Noelle had a very active/involved floor community around her. It's really easy to retreat to a room of your own. Sometimes a bad roommate is what it takes to get you out with other people. And a good one brings other people into your life. I had forgotten that she's been homeschooled for a few years. Whatever the genesis of that was, it took from her a lot of the skill set of "every year in school you have new teachers/classes and this won't be that much different." She had to be worried about just walking into a classroom, something most incoming freshmen consider the least of the adjustment.