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  1. DianeDobbler

    S04.E12: I Need a Break

    Greg is allowed to not like water parks, but if he agrees to go and still begrudges, that is asshole. Yes, yes, relationship high, wants to make her happy, she really really really wanted to go and made pouty faces, but that is when you act like a grown up person and say I don't like it, never will like it, and even loving the fact that we're back in a relationship and together won't make me like it. Once he goes, that's it. He can't be half-assed, going through the motions, a drag, or he's being a baby. He's a big boy. I mean obviously, IMO, this episode is saying they are not that compatible. There was always the question of, if a non-bitter Greg, no longer stuck in West Covina, finally on track at his dream grad school, got back together with Rebecca, would it work? Did his grumpy and dour aspects stem from frustration? In this episode they are showing us he's that guy whether his life is on track or not on track. And I don't think people like Greg are unhappy at ALL. They are often, IMO, quite happy and healthy, but they are not well-matched with the Rebeccas of this world, who can make a party out of hanging out with Paula's kind of grumpy and obnoxious dad. AND it is not the job of the Rebeccas of this world to sort of be their partner's one stop shopping center for fun, and the only way their partner can access it. I liked this episode but still feel the show can be sloppy linking things up. The story they SHOWED us prior to this episode was a Rebecca who was being healthy. She confessed to Greg about Marco. She accepted when Greg walked away. She was honest with Jason. When she and Greg started to get back together she pressed pause and explained to him she had to process the spiral she had just had. When Nathaniel asked her if she was happy, she gave a mature, one day at a time answer. In every way she behaved like a woman who was doing her homework, remaining mindful, and not falling into the traps of using relationships, emotions and love as a fix. I absolutely think CXG was making the point it's a different Rebecca this time. Then because they wanted to make a different point in this episode, they reveal she was substituting a relationship high for therapy and meds. That is NOT what the show was showing us in prior episodes. The episodes themselves are well done, but connecting them is poorly done. Did enjoy that Josh was allowed to use the word, "Hence" and that he knew immediately how many drinks she'd had.
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    S04.E12: I Need a Break

    Jack Dolgen gave Skylar Austin a shout out for "I hate everything but you" and Austin did kick ass. The problem, for me, is his body language and uber-energetic performance contradicted the jaded guy defined by his anhedonia (the actual original title of Annie Hall). The second time Austin yelled "Even more examples!!!!" his body was writhing with energy. He was uninhibited and full of abandon the entire performance. This is a guy exploding with fun while singing about how he hates everything, and I don't think this was intentional or considered.
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    S04.E12: I Need a Break

    I don't think there's a stigma to being on meds. Maybe 15 years ago. But in Southern California? Any of the coastal places, even West Covina? No.
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    S04.E11: I'm Almost Over You

    I'm going by what SMF said in a recent interview, that he was given five on a "let's see how you do." basis. A show usually puts a positive public announcement spin on casting because it's so sensitive for the performers. With that caveat, I think they gave SMF the five only as a formality, an insurance policy to cover their behinds in case it didn't work for some totally unanticipated reason, but that behind the scenes the show runners anticipated it would work and mapped out S3 accordingly even before he'd begun shooting. It was obvious CXG was excited to have him. SMF himself has always been the one to throw cold water on his own hype. Aline said that the reason SMF wasn't cast as Greg when he auditioned for Greg was because nobody could possibly believe a guy as handsome as SMF would be stuck in Greg's life or be the runner-up in some girl's romantic arc. When that was quoted back to SMF he said that was flattering spin but he believed the actual reason was they wanted a stronger singing chops for Greg than his own. Josh's intelligence - I think it was a big mistake to just lift Hector's original Mom weirdness and paste it onto Josh with Hector's mom. That was lazy. I recently rewatched an earlier season. Think it was S2 when Josh was stalling because he didn't want to tell Greg he was living with Rebecca. When Greg asked him where he was living Josh said, "Where do I reside?" like he actually knew the word reside. It just bugs me that they went the dumb route. It was overkill.
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    S04.E11: I'm Almost Over You

    I've never understood the writers' intentions to be carved in stone like that. Rachel Bloom has said repeatedly that Vincent Rodriguez's performance changed her mind about Josh's viability, that he is a viable end game candidate for Rebecca's heart. Initially he was supposed to be an abstraction or symbol of romantic love. Scott Michael Foster was given five episodes in a "let's see how you do" way and then upgraded to regular when they liked him, so the initial intention for him to dominate S3 wasn't there with HIM, either. I also don't recall when the writers were adamant that Paula was the second lead. She was the classic sidekick. It got a lot of positive feedback so they were often answering questions like "Is the real love story Paula and Rebecca." As we saw with the finale of S3, that is a relationship they can go to when they feel something else they're trying lacks sufficient stakes. I am expecting Josh to be the End Game here and think it is being structured exactly like that. Things change quickly on this show. Two episodes ago, the one in the gym, Nathaniel was written as a foil for Greg. This past episode that flipped. I won't be mad if he isn't but I do think it's interesting how adamant some people are that Josh does not count. He has moved in with her and is her friend, and she's attracted to him. I think they are "saving" things for future episodes, which is why they're not showing their hand about HIS feelings (well, he hasn't articulated them, but has shown us a few things via behavior). BTW, my expectation is completely apart from any theoretical argument that he shouldn't be or it would validate stalking or whatever. (That last I totally dismiss - Paula should be in jail, Valencia should be suing the two of them, and Nathaniel should also be behind bars. As should Rebecca, for that matter.) But anyway, my opinion exists completely apart whether anyone thinks that's a good ending. I will say I think there has been an incredible double standard re Josh, that he's almost invisible to some even when he's featured or when certain points are shown, and that there's a refusal to think of him as in the mix, and more of that kind of thing that would not exist if he were a cute hot white dude. I don't think the show necessarily shares that double standard. I like Scott Michael Foster a whole lot more than I liked Santino Fontana as Greg, but I did not enjoy Nathaniel / Rebecca and very much wish they had not made him a stereotypical rich handsome dude with daddy issues. That type has been deconstructed to DEATH and behind and CXG did nothing new with it. He's a good actor and I wish they had created a different character for him. I would not appreciate an end game that had Rebecca ending up with the rich handsome blondish guy who turned out to have a vulnerable streak and a heart of gold - that seems antithetical to CXG in every way. For the record, I ended up liking Josh the best because of Rodriguez's warmth, not liking Fontana, and being meh on the chemistry Foster and Bloom are meant to project. That's where I was until the episode with Jason, where I found myself enjoying him with Bloom very much.
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    S04.E11: I'm Almost Over You

    I'm here to point out that when you eliminate Greg, Nathaniel is not the only romantic end game option or Rebecca on the show. And I am expecting he (her roommate) will get his own big episode near the end. I do think it's obvious, just by how quickly they reunited romantically, that it's not going to be Greg. And I am also here to point out that it has been established repeatedly that Rebecca is currently attracted to her roommate. I would love to take bets, even virtual ones!! I LOVED this episode, mostly because I really enjoyed how well Scott Michael Thomas and Esther Povitsky worked together. I enjoyed their two big events - the karoake, and the work-all-night. They were adorable. I felt a pang myself when Nathaniel broke out of his daydream, made a decision, and ran into the regular Maya with whom he has no bonding history. I am glad he hit that level of maturity where the "if you love someone let them go" comes into play. But basically I was enjoying this episode on the level of a romantic comedy, even though they were sending it up.I was all about Daydream Maya and Nathaniel falling in love, and I loved Rachel Bloom's bitch faces at the table in the bar. She has that jealous-ex-in-romantic comedy routine DOWN. Even though this episode was really a Scott Michael Thomas and then Esther Povitsky showcase, I thought it brought out wonderful performances from Donna Lynn Champlin and Burl Mosley in particular. And of course, I enjoyed Greg wearing sweaters over his linen blazer, and particularly when he wore two sweaters over it as he went to propose. I never cared about Rebecca and Nathaniel's relationship but I have always found that Scott Michael Thomas at least is a strong television actor and understands the humor and rhythms and absurdity of this show. In fact I've always thought that was his strength. I thought this episode was his best performance in its combination of hilarious and absolutely genuine. He was really inspired and three dimensional. This was the first time I really believed in his being emotionally affected by the break-up. He sold it in a way I don't see when his character is actually PRESENT with the person (Rebecca) who supposedly broke his heart. My guesses about the remaining episodes start with my perception that Rebecca's real story is already over. She's a grounded, healthy, mature, self-aware woman who knows how to take care of herself. By the glamorous way Rebetzals looked even outside of Nathaniel's fantasy, it seems to be doing well so I'm not anticipating an on-screen career move. All that's left is her love life, but I think it's obvious that she'll be fine. If it's not Greg, or one of the other two, she'll date and she'll find someone, and that will be the one that works out. We don't really know what her ambitions are. And I think the rest of the main characters will also get happy endings. I think her close female friend group is pretty much set in that regard. Paula's marriage seems solid, she's a lawyer, she's not stuck being a drudge at home. She's going to be a happy semi-empty nester who can enjoy her life. For the others, I think Darryl is in a good place. He's basically in love with his kids. He'll date, but finding The One before the end of the series isn't necessary. He has a good relationship with his ex; the firm seems to be doing well. Nathaniel needed to move on while there were still a sufficient number of episodes remaining for the audience to see him living it and actually over Rebecca, not just nobly letting her go. What I expect from Greg and Rebecca is they will both realize it's kind of "eh" with them being a couple, and it won't break either of their hearts and they will give up the idea while remaining great and supportive friends. Without Rebecca being a bitter memory in his past anymore, Greg's story is done. He's a nice guy, he got the chance to see if he and Rebecca could really be The One for each other in an on the level way, and we'll know that now he'll probably find someone else in no time (just like Rebecca now would if all her current options didn't exist). For Josh, I think I know what the emotional arc is going to be but I have no idea what sort of story or plot will trigger it, but he'll also be resolved/defined in a happy way. I also have no idea what kind of time will pass between now and the end. This past episode seemed to happen only a couple of days after Greg and Rebecca babysat Hebecca. Don't know if there's more Naomi to come, but having Elaine Boozler show up for her award evening and get to rub it in the face of the Levines, plus her daughter setting firm new boundaries while still wanting a relationship with her seems like a nice wrap up for her.
  7. DianeDobbler

    S04.E11: I'm Almost Over You

    I really enjoyed this, mostly because I loved the rom com of Maya/Nathaniel straight up as well as the rom com with the jokes and lampshades. And I enjoyed Rebecca's bitch faces and jealous "Babes" and stammering. AND Donna Lynn Champlin's every line reading. SMF was very good in this, but it reminds me the actual Nathaniel/Rebecca relationship bored me to tears, and they never developed his character. They've done a better job using Rebecca/Nathaniel as a sort of Proustian madeleine that lets us in to Nathaniel's inner life. They can't really evoke the actual relationship since it was one plot contrivance after the other. I never thought they belonged together. They had similar status and that is it. Temperment, taste, attitude, personality - a complete clash. It doesn't ying and yang for me either. I thought Fantasy Maya, with her unflappable demeanor, worked with him and relaxed him much more. I never liked Greg, but the CXG writers seem to find it very easy to write for him. Almost write TOO much for him. However, Astin's Greg, while funny and kind, seems a little basic vis a vis Rebecca. Still, I think what she needs is someone easygoing, fundamentally emotionally generous, and accepting. On the current canvas, that fits Greg (can't believe I'm saying that), Josh, and Jason.
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    S04.E10: I Can Work With You

    never mind - added my thought to previous post.
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    S04.E10: I Can Work With You

    Never liked Santino's Greg although the hostility certainly read loud and clear in the performance. To me the best and ideal Greg is Marco. Just strip 30-40 years off him and he's perfect (or the actor is perfect). When they met up in the bar and Rebecca said, "that's old Greg." I thought - YES! That said I enjoy Skylar's performance although I agree that outside those who just want Greg it didn't have the dramatic impact of someone who had played the role all along. For me the best part of the episode was Vincent Rodriguez and Scott Michael Foster's performance in Sports Analogies. First off, they were clearly having a blast. And I loved some of the contrasts. Vinnie was really specific with all the sports he mimed - opening up on the swing of the bat and tracking the flight of the ball, his fingers on the pitch, the position of his arms when he set up to catch the football, etc. And his throw of the baseball into the "audience" which I'm pretty sure was CGI since the baseball just vanished into the either as it hit the end of the trajectory. For SMT I loved his sheer enjoyment, and if you watch the very last reprise of the chorus as he and Vinnie cross to stage left, he is shimmying his damn shoulder. :) I have my own end game theory (not a spoiler - my theory is Josh). But that aside, if I had a preference, I would not want to be rooting for the guy she hooks up and tries again with with eight episodes to go when there are two other exes. Not when the show runners have said they're returning to rom com for the last half of the season.
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    S04.E09: I Need Some Balance

    I tihnk the post-diagnosis plan was very generic, not specific, not grounded as Bloom and McKenna always insist things should be. As out there as S1 and S2 were, with all the juggling of Josh, Greg, work, herself, her mom, the story was always extremely clear to me. They could really stretch out the beats because the story was anchored to a pursuit. So while Rebecca is pursuing, they can do a million detours, rest stops, etc., as long as the pursuit is still underneath, and, more importantly, as long as the real reasons behind it are still underneath it (those real reasons can account for detours as from time to time she thinks she can get what she needs without pursuing Josh but by "liking" Greg, or whatever). And as long as she doesn't deal with the real, undiagnosed reasons behind what she's doing, the story can go on and on and be expressed almost in an infinite number of ways, but of course, CXG is expressing it in romantic comedy tropes. I think even when some audience members would lose themselves in the tropes and start seeing her clear psychological issues as a "mere" obstacle to being with the right guy, instead of what the show was about. Anyway, the guys were the symptoms, Rebecca and what was really the matter with her was the story. Great premise, IMO. So much can and was deconstructed underneath that umbrella. But the second half of S3, now that she was diagnosed, became all text, not subtext. I think they were so excited about SMT (maybe in reaction to whatever rumored backstage issues there had been w/Santino Fontana, which is what I suspect) they were just excited about having Rebecca and him fuck in a fan service-y way all the time, and the show wasn't grounded in anything anymore, and became really forced. I think they didn't break the show down properly in the second half of S3, or think it through. It was just - well, Rebecca is diagnosed now, but it's a struggle and a process, so she'll backslide - and that was it. It was backsliding with no stakes behind it at all, so it became cartoonish, overstated, forced, obnoxious, ridiculous (the hit man on Mona, the crap with Nathaniel and Josh's family, etc.). No stakes. It was just delaying her getting better, but she was going to get better, because she had therapy, and SOME awareness now. I felt everything in S3 was obnoxious - the contemptuous way Josh was treated, the bizarre decision to have Darryl want to be a dad again (WHY? WHY? I can't be the only one who always forgets to remember Darryl despite all the time his character and stories take up), the weird way they stopped developing Nathaniel's character. Turning Trent from an absurdist running joke to a real, serious-world threat. I think one of the only things I was looking forward to was whatever the story was behind "The first penis I saw" song and turned out there wasn't one. The season was overbearing and I stopped sympathizing with Rebecca. It was an all hat, no cowboy half season that stank of desperation because they were trying to keep the energy up without any fuel. S4, I think the show has gotten honest with itself that it shouldn't try to re-set S1 and S2. In S3 they tried to have Rebecca doing the same things "because she backslides" and that wasn't strong enough, and, IMO there wasn't enough history with the new character she was doing it with. He became a WTF. Also the hormone stuff they pulled was just the worst. And the time jump. Darryl's baby - one of the all time stupid ideas. But now, they have accepted that Rebecca is better. They can make decent episodes out of it - IMO her little brother's visit turned out to be decent. She is sorting out her career and her family. She trying to live in the middle- not react to her three ex-boyfriends by renouncing love, but trying to find a healthy relationship somewhere else. There are small changes I enjoy - I enjoyed her dismayed reaction to the cattiness between her mother and Adrienne Levine's mother. In the past she'd have snarked herself or rolled up her sleeves and become combative. So really, this season is about - with whom will she end up (I really feel Aline has made it clear she's going to end up with one of the three - I could be wrong), and why? And how does she get there. I think there's enough of an investment from the first two seasons to make this sort of coda/resolution season compelling. The second half of S3 was just a huge mess falling into every problem every show seems to fall into when they want to stay in place while giving the illusion of forward motion, and the tail is wagging the dog.
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    S04.E09: I Need Some Balance

    Theatremouse, Jason said let's hang out tonight. I'll bring over a room spray, put on some thick sweats. I really really like this season so far, albeit it got off to a very rocky start. However, I thought the ship righted itself when it got out of the will they won't they Nathaniel shit, thank GOD, and when they actually made a decision to have Rebecca get healthy, instead of the "having it both ways" shit they did last season, where she had a diagnosis and was nominally getting better, but also acting like a jerk and being OTT and rationalizing because it's a "long process". (RME.) The Tucker episode, although problematic musically for me, did firmly establish that Rebecca has grown up. I felt renewed confidence in CXG when that episode happened. There are weirdnesses - I don't know why they had Valencia move to NYC except for them wanting her there when Rebecca visited her mom - but surely they could have come up with another pretext to include Valencia. I think the pretzel business was from hunger - completely DOA. Don't believe in it at all. Rebecca and her financial situation is still ridiculous. I could theorize she made bank for the very short period of time she was out of law school and working in big law, but twice the show told us she was broke. Once while she was working for Darryl, another time when she was calculating her finances after her diagnosis. And still she spent thousands with no accounting where it came from. When they needed her to get a yeast infection though, suddenly she can only afford 3 for 5.00 workout tights. I think the Greg stuff is another having it both ways - he's grown, but then not grown at all. Considering his original interest in Rebecca was somewhat dysfunctional - per Aline, he wanted someone almost because she didn't want him - him still wanting her is disappointing. There are many ways to re-spark them without having him come back in basically the same place. All that said, the show has much more clarity in its structure than the back half of last season. Rebecca is healthy. She is seeking a relationship, but obviously think revisiting her exes is a bad idea, although I expect that to shift soon. There's the mystery of - IS it a bad idea, or is it a possibly a good idea? However, I think it's extremely smart for the show to play it that she thinks it's bad right now.
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    S04.E09: I Need Some Balance

    I thought the episode was structured very well and managed to show chaos that really wasn't Rebecca's fault. She really didn't escalate the hiding of her infection - she was embarrassed, but finally came clean, so to speak, and that was it. In hindsight, the guys in the episode can go bite it. They all end up at Rebecca's. Rebecca is minding her own business trying to get off, as is her right. And Nathaniel and NuGreg are all pissy, as if it's just another Rebecca-mess. It had nothing to do with her, so the pouting and sullen was out of place. Jason I can kind of sympathize with. Rebecca bailed on one date, he was thrown out of the other, and I can see having her ex boyfriends show up would to Jason just be the final sign this wasn't meant to be. I do find it interesting that Josh, as a roommate, is just being a decent guy and not stirring up any drama, sulking, or acting obsessive re Rebecca. He's helping her. I do like this season much better than last season. Last season I thought the first half was brilliant and the second half a hot mess. I even know people who quit the show then. The second half just seemed to want to continue the scheming and OTT without the underlying desperation, loneliness, denial and self-medicating that drove Rebecca before her diagnosis. It was just using Rebecca's illness to give her permission to be an asshole, and it also felt really fan-servicey in a way, like every plot was an excuse to get her fucking Nathaniel, whom they basically stopped really writing for. There was no anchor to the show. Oh, and trashing Josh's life, and then pivoting to mocking him and treating him with contempt at every turn. That was a huge misfire. And not even starting with the whole Darryl and Hebekka and Heather idiocy. This season it is very clear that Rebecca is MUCH better. I also think it is highlighting the true character of the guys she was with when she was un-well. It has also matured Paula, as I think the episode where Greg was re-introduced showed us. She was totally absorbed in her own life and goals, not channeling through Rebecca or blaming her family. I always hated Darryl and Whijo as a couple. I could never see what Whijo saw in Darryl. OTOH, while Darryl is annoying and Burt is as well, I can't help thinking their employees are very lucky to be working in a sort of "Office" type environment where the boss just wants to be liked and win the approval of his employees. That has got to take down the stress level, as many boutique business environments are toxic as hell. This sort of dysfunction may be, as Father Brah said, what happens when you bring emotional needs into a transactional environment, but the transactional nature of things is barely present.
  13. DianeDobbler

    S04.E09: I Need Some Balance

    What a great episode. I agree the Darryl/Burt stuff was boring, as are most things Darryl, but at least it brought us Rene Grube's "Please don't." to Maya. If the story had only been just an excuse to get Father Brah mediating, that would have been an improvement. However, the rest of it was great. It reminds me that I could never survive in a writers room, because if somebody pitched - Rebecca has a yeast infection and it's symbolized by characters from CATS manifesting themselves in her home, I'd have been "Ew." And of course, it was the perfect obstacle for her as she attempted to get laid. Really the underlying structure worked like gangbusters, which is what you need in comedy, particularly as the climax of the comedy approached when the obstacles changed from the yeast infection to being Greg and Nathaniel. I also liked that CXG didn't rely on the star power of the guest stars to carry it but wrote each number to make the character's point strongly and specifically expressed. Jason and NuGreg kind of look alike. I loved loved Jason. Who knew the actor who had no lines years ago in "Please don't be a murderer" had such a relaxed way with dialogue, managing to be genuine AND funny and communicating that he was smart and nice. He had very decent chemistry with Rachel Bloom as well as Gabrielle Ruiz. I never liked Greg, but at least with this Greg he seems to fit in better. I don't know if that's a plus or minus, as I can see this Greg being happy in West Covina and old Greg not so much (obviously). I love Rachel Bloom for both using CATS as she did in this episode and taking the piss out of it, because it was perfect. I remember attending a performance, and thinking - wait, where the hell is the plot? And I could see all of the performers just out there vamping their hearts out, which only emphasized there was no damn story. For me it was exactly like "Funky Cat" in Rebecca's bathroom. Also enjoyed both Josh's. WhiJo's commentary was hilarious, and I loved Josh running around helping out Rebecca and being a decent (if oblivious at times) roommate while the other guys were busy licking their wounds over their past with her. If anyone should be pissy about Rebecca it should be Josh, who was stalked, manipulated, menaced and then trashed/lied about by her, not to mention mocked, but his natural generous nature and probably therapy has him not obsessing, while the other two are still stuck. I also loved the line "Those are not platonic pants."
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    Fact vs. Fiction: The Podcast and the Real People

    A friend of mine is hooked on this Bravo show, so I binged-read the entire story in the L.A. Times archives. Listened to a couple of interviews. As so many here point out, there is SO MUCH the reporters and the subjects just won't discuss. The mom's forgiveness of her daughter's murderer is NOT forgiveness, it is favoring men over women, as she did even before her child was murdered in cold blood. She allowed her son-in-law to live with her. She dismissed her daughter's information and experience in her marriage. THAT's the issue, not the b.s. "forgiveness.". This sort of forgiveness is nothing but denial and a way not to deal with what happened. Period. It sure isn't forgiveness. If the roles were reversed and the daughter were controlling, paranoid, making her husband miserable, we can be certain the same forgiveness would not have extended to her child. What the hell does the Mariners church teach? That's another question that goes unasked. Narcs and psychopaths/sociopaths is a popular topic right now. What is less discussed is who is most likely to be their target? Why isn't the psychology of the targets as popular a subject, so the victims can recognize susceptibility in themselves and be less vulnerable to predators? Debra has been married five freaking times. I, as I am sure many people, know plenty of people who would have the opposite reaction to "love bombing" and instant amazing in-love landing on my doorstep. "Back off." There's a sentence in a novel I read once, "Yes, I'm amazing, but how would he, who has known me five whole minutes, KNOW that?" So if someone has just met you and finds you absolutely mesmerizing and fascinating without having had the opportunity to actually KNOW you, why not ask yourself how come they are trying to bowl you over? Cause it's about them, not how amazing you are. The immaturity here is blood curdling. Even in a podcast I listened to, with a profiler and Gifford, and a journalist, only one person in the entire podcast questioned Debra's action in being WILLFULLY blind. Said the journalist, "Because of how he made her FEEL." Like that's a legitimate thing! It's not! It's "I want my fix, and my good feelings, and to feel amazing, and it's too good to let reality intrude." That's a problem, and the problem is with freaking DEBRA. It's totally different with someone who finds themselves married to a psycho because none of this happened and his dysfunction emerged over time, or a host of other contingencies and mitigating factors. But Debra? "I feel amazing, THIS feels amazing." And that's IT. I just don't get it. Are most women monsters of vanity or something, that when an insta-romance arrives and the guy is doing EVERTYHING for them overnight, they think they're the ones inspiring it - that he doesn't merit a closer look? Obviously this drives me crazy, but what also drives me crazy is the notion that narcs and psychos are so clever that everybody is a target, even women in Debra's position, with money, independence, and options. They're not. If someone is mirroring you right out of the gate, plenty of people see that as a red flag. PLENTY. If someone is love bombing you, that is not a GOOD sign. In the effort not to victim blame, the psychology of what some people are looking for in a relationship - JUST the feels and the love haze - goes unexplored. Or not explored enough. It's dangerous, and I think it needs to be talked about.
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    S04.E08: I'm Not the Person I Used to Be

    Never thought about it before but it's true that the nicest people get elected things at school. In highschool, the class president was somebody I couldn't even say who her best friends or clique was. She was nice to everybody, smart, funny, good-humored, personable, accessible. Didn't have any kind of label like smart kid (although it turned out she tied for the highest score in the school on the National Merit Scholarship test), jock, etc. Very very dependable - she'd do what she said she'd do, and no drama, but easy to take her for granted. The sort of person if she disappeared you'd realize she was pretty rare and irreplaceable (she filled a lot of roles at school that others didn't care about, like playing piano for all the glee club rehearsals). Yeah, after 30 years you're not going to recognize people if you haven't seen them in the interim, but Aileen was talking specifically about ex-es, and, of course, it had been only two years since Rebecca had seen Greg. So I think ABM just pulled that one out of her hind end to sell the idea of the recast. They always seem to become hyper enthusiastic bringing on someone new. Their enthusiasm for Astin reminds me of their enthusiasm for Scott Michael Thomas. I guess they just love it when someone fits in immediately. A Vulture review mentioned that "Other Rebecca a/k/a Deborah" is really unfunny, and I agree. I get the point that this perfect seeming person is kind of unhinged, but just about nothing out of her mouth has been amusing, IMO. And this is born out because no sooner is Josh deflated to learn he wasn't elected prom king, that he is very happily bonding with a table of nerds, willing to find out all about them, finding common ground (Josh, also, liked magic in high school) and honestly enjoying himself. He's got an open heart. Darryl can be a lot, but who wouldn't want him as a boss, particularly in a boutique-y type law firm (Mountainhead functions like one despite being now co-owned by a larger entity)? Just feels like picking on the un-cool person.
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