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    Small Talk: Take A Break From Shop(ping) Talk

    Thanks ❤️ Yes I think you said that to me when I posted my original story. I do want to try to go to the other ultrasound place though. My husband and MIL have been there for tests and they both say the staff there are really nice. I just wish there weren't extra steps involved. I didn't know you could do that! I will start doing that because they didn't give me any copies last time. I think it is pretty common. I have a friend who's older than me and she said that women get all kinds of lumps in their breasts all the time and it's almost never cancer. I also think my mom mentioned having breast cysts once, but since I'm estranged from her I can't ask her. In any case the doctor said I have fibrocystic breasts so the tissue is more dense, and that it is common (~50% of women) but also increases my risk of breast cancer 😞 I also do get a lot of cysts in general. I have skin cysts all over my torso. If I use any products with fragrances or colorants in that area, they get inflamed and sometimes one swells up with fluid and I have to go to the dermatologist and get it drained. I also got an ovarian cyst last year. Maybe it's just a genetic thing. It's possible. I have gotten a lot of stress related illnesses. I have a feeling it's related to a medication I took twice this year. I noticed the first cysts a couple of months after taking it the first time, and I noticed the fibroadenoma got bigger a couple of months after taking it the second time. Thanks for all your responses you guys. You are truly the best!
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    Small Talk: Take A Break From Shop(ping) Talk

    And people wonder why I don't drive. I hope none of these idiots get paid a cent from the insurance company. **** I'm having a bad time this week. I mentioned on here many times that I'm a hypochondriac. I also mentioned that several months ago I found a lump in my breast and got an ultrasound. They found some cysts and a fibroadenoma (benign growth that is common for younger women) and told me to come back in six months to get the fibroadenoma imaged again to see if it would have to be removed. I also believe I told the story on here about how the ultrasound technician was very rude to me and refused to give me my test results and then laughed in my face when I asked why. Well today is exactly six months from then. I've gotten letters from the ultrasound place and my doctor telling me I have to come back in to get it imaged again. I can already tell that it got bigger and it has also become painful. This can happen with fibroadenomas but it is still making me worry about it. But because I'm terrified that they made a mistake and it's actually cancer, and also I'm especially terrified because of how I was treated at the ultrasound place, I can't get the courage to go to the appointment. I feel like I will drop dead of a heart attack from fear if I go. It was already bad enough the first time around. I asked the doctor at the ultrasound place if she was 100% sure it wasn't cancer. She said that she was positive it wasn't because of the shape and said that if she had any doubt, she would do a biopsy to make sure. She must look at this stuff all day so one would think she knows what she's talking about. But because of how they treated me I'm afraid there was some mistake and they got it mixed up with someone else's file or they misread it or something. I'm also concerned with why I suddenly started getting all these things in the first place. As far as I know I didn't have any of these a couple of years ago and suddenly I got cysts and a fibroadenoma out of nowhere. Why? Is it just a getting older thing? Is it because of certain medications? Is it from my vitamin D deficiency? Or is it a sign of something else? Either way I'm terrified and can barely concentrate on anything this week. I want to go to a different ultrasound place but they need a referral from the doctor's office and the doctor's office wants me to come in to get the referral, so that makes it even more complicated, plus having to forward the medical records and all.
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    QVC

    I'm conflicted on this because it does generate a lot of landfill waste but I also feel bad judging since I've never been a caregiver to an incontinent person. This isn't even a current trend...this was popular in like, 2007 (and looked just as stupid then).... Is Thursdays with Jane not a thing anymore? I wanted to listen to it in the background but there's just dumbass Shawn selling Lisa Rinna clothes, and Marilyn Manson selling shoes on QVC2. Haven't had much interest in watching QVC lately and definitely not when those two are on....
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    Empire in the Media: Read It In Billboard

    He's not the only reason and there are many other prejudices at play, but even the police spokesperson on the news said that this could lead to future victims being doubted, publicly shamed, and being afraid to come forward. The police generally don't like to talk about that kind of stuff because it makes them look bad, so if even they admit it, there must be some truth to it. Wow. They are not playing around. And they shouldn't. This guy did his part to escalate the already terrible social problems in the US for a completely self-centered reason.
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    Empire in the Media: Read It In Billboard

    Oh wow, how could he possibly survive on such a pittance? /s What a stupid and pointless reason to act so selfishly and make things harder for people who actually were the victim of hate crimes. I agree. Unfortunately in 2019 being a victim sells. He wasn't even the first person to fake a hate crime that got media attention. I saw a post somewhere that mentioned a few other cases too (not celebrities).
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    Empire in the Media: Read It In Billboard

    He was. Isn't there some sort of federal crime involving fake mail? Admittedly I've never watched Empire and never heard of this guy before this story. I thought his story was suspicious when I first heard it for several reasons. The weather conditions and time of day, the fact that he calmly walked away from the scene with the Subway sandwich and noose around his neck, the details of the crime seeming like a seventh-grader's idea of how racists would act. But since I watch true crime I know life can be stranger than fiction so I withheld judgment. Certain people are way too gleeful that this happened though. They're blaming the media for causing political unrest by believing him at first which I think is pretty ridiculous. Also accusing the media of not covering it anymore once it started coming out that it was a hoax, which is completely untrue as it has been covered everywhere. And also using this one incident to say that all accusations of racism and racist violence are false. BTW does anyone else think this guy looks like a sociopath? Even before it was confirmed to be a hoax, to me it seems like he has those empty sociopath eyes in every photo and video of him.
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    There's Something Wrong with Aunt Diane

    Another thing, I checked out the routes from the Tappan Zee bridge tollbooths to where she got on the Taconic State Parkway and one route makes sense. She knew that Warren Hance was coming to get her and that he might possibly send police or an ambulance to her location for her "medical emergency," and she couldn't risk being found out that she was driving drunk and high with kids in the car. It would shatter her perfect supermom image, possibly cause her to lose her job, and nobody would ever trust her again. That's why she left her phone, so that it would be harder to find her. I don't know if she was necessarily in a total blackout but possibly she was in and out of a blackout, a "rolling blackout" if you will (that happened to me when I had edibles plus one or two drinks, so with ten drinks but a higher tolerance it would definitely be possible). I think that possibly she intended to just drive around on random back roads for a while until she sobered up more and then she would come home and claim a medical emergency. I believe she got on the Saw Mill River Parkway going north and drove up a few exits, then got off at the Bedford Road exit. Warren Hance already knew she was in Tarrytown so she had to get away from there. From there she made a left turn onto Pleasantville Road, a two-lane road, and it was only a short distance to the Taconic Parkway off-ramp where she got on. If you look at the off-ramp on Google Maps, besides the "Wrong Way" and "Do not Enter" signs, you can't really tell it's a highway off-ramp, like you can't see the highway until you're actually on it, and it just looks like a random country road. There is no signage for the Taconic Parkway near the off-ramp either. If she was experiencing rolling blackouts it's very possible she didn't even realize anything was wrong while she was getting on the off-ramp and even driving on the highway. It may sound weird but intoxicated drivers drive the wrong way on the highway all the time and most of them have no idea until they crash. At first I thought she got on the Saw Mill River Parkway going north when she intended to go south to Long Island, then realized her mistake and got off and drove to the Taconic Parkway to go back south but just got on the wrong way. But the reason why I don't think this is as likely an explanation is because there was no signage on Pleasantville Road or on the Saw Mill River Parkway indicating that this was a route to the Taconic Parkway. Unless she was familiar with the area or just assumed she would reach a highway going south if she continued driving, it doesn't make any sense that she would know this road went to the Taconic Parkway. There was no indication she was using GPS in the car. **** Anyway on the subject of edibles...unfortunately I have had two bad experiences with edibles, not realizing how strong they were. I had intermittent blackouts as I described, out of body experiences, paranoia, I felt like reality wasn't real anymore (dissociation) and my consciousness was "resetting" itself every few seconds, time slowed down a ridiculous amount (a minute seemed to take five minutes), vomiting, trouble speaking (I thought I was speaking normally but nobody could hear what I was saying), trouble seeing, and trouble understanding what was going on. Other people had to direct me where to go, and the first time I had to use process of elimination to figure out which corner my boyfriend's building was located on based on the amount of lights on each corner because I couldn't see properly. Both times I was in an unfamiliar place where I had never been before, and the first time there were also unfamiliar people around, which added to the terror of the experience. Both times when I had bad experiences it was due to the people who gave me the edibles being unclear about the dosage. Both times I assumed that one edible was the intended unit for getting high. It later turned out that the intended dosage was like 1/4 or less of what I took, which I was not informed of. I later learned that this is pretty common. If Diane had the same issue, she could have ended up in the same state as me. The other thing is that this high lasts for a long time. For me it lasted until I went to sleep, which was about 12 hours later the second time, and there were still after-effects the next day. As I said before, wrong-way crashes on the highway with intoxicated drivers happen fairly often. Even if I knew how to drive I would have realized during my bad edible experiences that I was in no state to operate a vehicle. But I also have always been one of those "any amount of alcohol = no driving" people because that's what I was always taught growing up. If Diane got drunk and high in the first place, she probably got drunk and high while driving all the time. Perhaps she had even been very intoxicated while driving before. People are shocked that she would drive intoxicated but it happens. People drive drunk all the time, and many of them do it with kids in the car, and many of them aren't the people you would expect to do it (as I said if she was poor or non-white society wouldn't think this story was odd because of society's preconceived notions and prejudices). She isn't the first and she isn't the last to do it, or to kill innocent people because of it. I think people think it's a murder-suicide because they don't realize how common this is. There was even a news story ABC did (it's on Youtube) about one of those "wine moms" who became an alcoholic and she admitted to driving drunk with her kids. Also Diane had control issues and so in her mind, she had to keep driving so she wouldn't be found out. First to try to get the kids home and keep the facade going, and then once it became clear that something was wrong, to hide from her brother and the police/ambulance so that she wouldn't lose everything. Weed causes paranoia too so she would have been too paranoid to just park somewhere and wait it out, especially if she thought people were looking for her. She was likely trying to go to an unfamiliar area on purpose, possibly out of Westchester County, so that it would take them hours to find her and she would be sobered up by then. Ultimately the main reason that rules out murder-suicide is that there is no motive for her to kill her nieces. Jackie Hance was one of her closest friends. If there had been any animosity between her and her brother, the nieces would never have gone upstate with her in the first place. Also, murder-suicides don't just come out of nowhere. There is generally escalating abuse leading up to it, and in this case there was no evidence of abuse at all.
  8. Did not know that but it definitely makes sense. I guess he has always been arrogant and delusional and this isn't a new development after fading into obscurity.
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    There's Something Wrong with Aunt Diane

    Ok so I actually ended up watching the documentary again since I haven't seen it in years, and I actually don't think this is what happened after watching it again. Here's the timeline: around 9:30 AM -- They leave the campground and the campground owner saw no signs of intoxication. 9:56 AM -- They go to the McDonalds in Liberty. The staff saw no signs of intoxication. Google Maps says it takes about 17 minutes to get there from the campground, although that is without traffic, plus the 9:30 time of leaving the campground was only an estimate. She gets an orange juice there which some speculate she used as a mixer with the vodka from the car. 10:46 AM -- They go to the Sunoco station in Liberty which is very close to the McDonalds. The time is about consistent with five kids eating breakfast, playing in the McDonalds playground, etc. The store clerk saw no signs of intoxication. Some people on Youtube think she was driving aggressively as she drove away from the pumps and onto the road, which could be from intoxication or just the local cultural tradition of driving like an asshole (I live in NJ and people who suck at driving are everywhere and only some of them are drunk...also statements by some of her friends indicate she was an aggressive driver). In any case if she was intoxicated it was only mildly at this point. 11:37 AM -- She calls Jackie Hance and has a seemingly normal conversation and says they are delayed due to traffic. Remember though this was 2009 and most people had flip phones and upstate the signal can be not great, so even if she was slurring her words or something they may not have been able to hear it due to subpar reception. around 11:45 AM -- Witnesses see her on the side of Route 17 looking like she is vomiting, I believe this was Francis and Jean Bagley but not sure where this was (https://nypost.com/2009/11/09/taconic-ma-twice-car-sick/). around 12 PM -- Gerald Salerno Esq. sees her driving erratically and aggressively on I-87, around Harriman. He says that she was "gripping onto the steering wheel, appearing to concentrate on driving" but also that her aggressive driving "appeared to be done with some level of precision." It is most likely that she started drinking between 10:46 AM and 12 PM. It takes about 30 minutes to feel the effects of alcohol after drinking it. 12:13 PM -- She goes through the Harriman toll plaza on I-87. Depending on where she was, without traffic it should have taken her around 50 minutes to get to this point from Liberty according to Google Maps, and it took her about an hour and a half. But if there was traffic or if she stopped somewhere else to get the Advil, the kids stopped for the bathroom, etc. it could have taken longer. I haven't seen any reports on whether there actually was traffic but I do know in the summer there can often be a good deal of traffic from upstate to NYC as people come back from weekend trips. around 12:30 PM -- Francis and Jean Bagley see her (again?) driving aggressively on I-87 to the point of almost causing an accident. She drives into the truck area of the Ramapo Travel Plaza. She gets out and looks like she is vomiting again. According to Google Maps it should take about 12 minutes without traffic to get here from the Harriman toll plaza and it took her about 17 minutes. sometime between 12:35-1:35 PM -- She consumes the marijuana according to toxicology reports. Although if it was an edible, which I suspect it was for a variety of reasons (no paraphernalia found in the car, the kids would have noticed and maybe said something if she smoked it, the effects are 100% consistent with my experience of edibles, and it is VERY common with edibles to accidentally consume way too much without realizing since they are often stronger than people realize), maybe it was consumed long before that (from what I remember they take an hour or more to fully kick in and then you are hit with the effects suddenly). 12:55 PM -- Wrong number dialed from her phone, no information on how long the call lasted, if anyone picked up, or whether it was her or one of the kids dialing. Clearly this was not the precipitating event of what happened, since she was most likely already intoxicated for up to two hours before that. 12:58ish-1:02ish PM -- She calls Jackie Hance and sounds disoriented, call lasts for about 2 1/2 minutes and ends abruptly at 1:01 PM. Warren Hance calls back. He says she didn't sound like herself and even called him by her husband's name at one point. I believe this is consistent with confusion caused by overconsumption of marijuana in combination with alcohol. The kids were crying in the background of the call and said that Diane couldn't see, which again is consistent with marijuana intoxication. 1:02 PM -- She goes through the Tappan Zee Bridge tollbooth which was on the Westchester side of the bridge (ie. the tollbooths happen after one has already crossed the bridge). According to Google Maps it should take about 24 minutes without traffic to get here from the Ramapo Travel Plaza and it took her about 34 minutes, although this is not 100% accurate since they tore down the Tappan Zee bridge and built a replacement bridge in almost the same location, plus we don't know the exact time she left the Ramapo service area. During this time she is still on the phone with Warren Hance and then pulls over to the right of the road immediately after the toll plaza. One of Warren Hance's daughters says that she sees a sign for Tarrytown and the image shown in the documentary is of the Tarrytown sign hanging from an overpass, which I believe is the overpass for Route 9. 1:10 PM -- Three wrong numbers are dialed from her phone, which could be her or one of the kids. 1:15 PM -- Warren Hance tries to call Diane as he is driving up to Tarrytown to find her (whyyyy did he not call the police?!) and it goes to voicemail. Her phone was later found on the concrete divider just past the tollbooths, so she must have been sitting there in the car from 1:02 PM to sometime between 1:10 and 1:15 PM. 1:15-1:33 PM -- She is driving on an unknown route between where her phone was left and 41°08′34″N 73°48′51″W (listed on Wikipedia as where she got onto the Taconic State Parkway). Varying routes here take 10-15 minutes. 1:35 PM -- Crash happens. She is described as looking straight ahead and seemingly totally unconcerned with and oblivious to the fact that she is driving on the wrong side of the road. So one of the biggest things is that the timeline is not really that inconsistent with how long it would take to drive normally with all the stops that were mentioned. In the documentary one of her family members claimed that the trip took four hours when it should have taken under an hour and that is completely untrue. There aren't really any big chunks of missing time especially if there really was traffic, which as I mentioned there most likely was. Everything she consumed was most likely in the car while driving. I don't think this was a murder suicide. People who commit murder suicide usually have a past history of abuse and/or mental illness and she didn't as far as we know. Her family, including the Hances, and most importantly her friends described her as a person with flaws and demons, but not an abuser or an unstable person. I also don't think there was any affair coverup or anything. I think she was a closet alcoholic and an addict. She intended to drink just a little (most likely vodka from the bottle in the car mixed with orange juice from the McDonalds...but her definition of "a little" could objectively be a lot if her tolerance was high) and consume a small amount of marijuana (most likely in the form of an edible) to get through the stressful drive with five kids and maybe her tooth abscess. She had probably done this many times before with no problems, as a number of people do. However the edible turned out to be way more powerful than she had realized. I believe the full effects may have hit her between 11:40 and 11:45 AM causing her to go from having a normal conversation to vomiting and driving erratically. Overconsumption of edibles alone can definitely cause vomiting, in combination with alcohol even more so. She lost contact with reality, went into a blackout and/or a state of dissociation, and continued to consume more alcohol than she intended, continued to drive when she was in no state to drive, and had no conscious realization of the fact she was driving on the wrong side of the road. I believe that this is the most likely explanation.
  10. Is that the one that's called, of all things, "ICONN"? That sort of thing makes me wonder if he hasn't decided to deliberately turn this into a long-con troll for some reason (probably publicity).
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    There's Something Wrong with Aunt Diane

    Wow...watching the news right now and they just reported another wrong-way crash on the Taconic Parkway, only a few miles from where the Diane Schuler crash happened, and they were flying over the scene and showed three cars were hit. It was a much less serious crash but weird coincidence.
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    There's Something Wrong with Aunt Diane

    It's very common for people to call mothers super mom and mother of the year even if the facts don't bear that out. I've seen lots of missing persons cases where things like that were said by loved ones and it turns out the mom in question had a drug problem and had periods of time where they didn't even have custody of their kids. And there's certainly no shortage of high-functioning alcoholics out there either. I still don't think HBO would have done a documentary on her, or anyone would have doubted the official story, no matter how good of a mom she looked like, if she wasn't a certain demographic.
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    There's Something Wrong with Aunt Diane

    It doesn't matter. A lot of people don't trust the police even if they are not the ones being suspected of anything, usually because they or people they know have had bad experiences with the police. They don't really have a reason to pursue it. Police investigate crime. While a crime was committed, the perpetrator is dead. I also think there's something a bit classist about the whole thing of people being shocked that a middle-class career woman and mother would drive drunk. If Diane worked as a cashier at Walmart getting food stamps and living in Section 8 housing, even if she had no known history of criminal behavior, the conversation would be very different and they definitely wouldn't have made a documentary about her.
  14. Simple, this festival was by douchebags, for douchebags. In other news Ja Rule is still completely out of his goddamn mind: https://www.businessinsider.com/ja-rule-wants-new-event-like-fyre-fest-hasnt-seen-netflix-or-hulu-docs-2019-2
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    There's Something Wrong with Aunt Diane

    Combination of alcohol and marijuana causing dissociation and blackout. Maybe she never combined both of them at the same time in those quantities before. I have accidentally over-consumed marijuana before on multiple occasions, some of them in combination with alcohol, and it causes a loss of the sense of reality, out of body experiences, confusion, and even vision problems like what she was describing. Of course I did not drive and I was not responsible for the care of minors on any of these occasions. There is no evidence that she had any Ambien in her system. Marijuana can cause psychotic symptoms on rare occasions. That zombie guy who ate the other guy's face off was not on bath salts as commonly assumed, but the only thing in his system was marijuana. I think the insurance, the court of public opinion, and possible CPS investigation is exactly why they are acting like they have no idea what happened to her. I totally agree. It's really not that rural. The highway looks rural since there are trees and stuff but there are towns and "exurbs" around it. The Tappan Zee Bridge is a very highly traveled bridge (or was, they recently replaced and demolished it). The campground area (I believe it was in the Catskills) and a lot of the route there on 17 was rural though. I used to travel that way on the bus coming home from college. Maybe I'm projecting my own life on her too much (this is one of the reasons I am choosing to be childfree), but perhaps she had kids thinking she would be a better mom than her mom was, but she felt that she ended up becoming too much like her own mother and that she had ruined their lives by being a bad mom. This is an interesting theory, have never heard this angle on it before. Totally agree that they can't admit it even if they knew. If they had any idea of it they would have had to call the police immediately and they didn't until it was too late. A lot of people distrust the police. I wouldn't take a refusal to talk to the police as suspicious. Totally agree.
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