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    Abducted in Plain Sight (Netflix)

    I think it was a weird mixture of the era, their extreme religious background and their small town lifestyle. I honestly think that some of those religions where NO ONE talks about sex or instructs you about sex or has a healthy attitude about sex do a ton of damage. I feel like both of the parents came from that sort of an environment. The dad probably was closer to gay on the kinsey scale and the mom didn't realize it and married him. My guess is that she was deeply unsatisfied in that marriage and that neither of them had an enjoyable sexual experience. Nor did they have the ability to even tell anyone what they were feeling or thinking or how they were confused. And then B comes along and makes them both feel desired and sexual and attractive in some way and they ate that shit up because it was the first time in their lives it had ever happened. And I also believe that the religious denial and sexual naiveté means that they didn't really fully digest the fact that their daughter had been molested and raped. I read an article somewhere about the Mormon church and it talked about how a lot of the elders did not come forward to help girls if they ever complained about sexual abuse. Or they punished them severely if they ever confessed to perfectly natural sexual urges or activities. So I think that if they ever did vocalize any worry about their daughter, it was probably shut down very quickly. And then they probably operated on some level on the knowledge that if anyone really knew what had happened to their daughter, their shitty terrible community might just ostracize her. So I really think it was a giant tempest of being completely ignorant about sex, weird religious ideas about sex making literally everything about sex seem shameful so there was no ability to differentiate in their minds between their daughter's molestation or two consensual adults having an affair and then just fear of their community. Not that I'm giving her parents a "I don't blame you!" card but I feel like there's a whole lotta messed up stuff that happened to them and in some ways their minds were just completely stunted and broken when it came to dealing with anything pertaining to sex.
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    Abducted in Plain Sight (Netflix)

    It was the time but I honestly think it was their church more than just the era. I feel like the church put pressure on them to not say anything publicly and I think they worried on some level that their daughter would be shunned if anyone suspected she'd had sex (and by sex I mean the rapes--just that her family would probably describe it as sex). I mean, they didn't even get her therapy after the first kidnapping! And they were like "We didn't think he did anything to her" - he married in her Mexico! Of course he molested her! I was shocked when the dad confessed what he'd done with B. And then later on when the mom confessed to an ongoing sexual affair with B she had a wistful little smile on her face. And this was after the first kidnapping! What the hell? I feel like they were all brain washed and weirded up by their church. I feel like they were all very naive about sex and didn't discuss it at all and all of these secrets were allowed to take root and fester. But man, it was insane.
  3. "In 1974, 12-year-old Jan Broberg is abducted from a small church-going community in Idaho by a trusted neighbour and close family friend." Has anyone else watched this documentary? It is absolutely CRAZY and her parents are insane and it's a miracle that she appears to be such a normal woman at this point after everything that she went through.Â
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    S01.E08: This Young Woman Fought Like Hell

    I don't begrudge her the ability to date again but she certainly needs to develop a checklist where she figures out how to do a background check, clear her choice with at least her oldest daughter and then also write-up a prenup before she walks down the aisle again.
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    S01.E08: This Young Woman Fought Like Hell

    I had listened to the podcast so I was spoiled with how John died but I thought that the actual portrayal of the attack on this show was really terrible and boring. They could have made it more interesting. In reality I think she stabbed John 13 times and on this it was like twice. And yes, like others had mentioned, a teenager had overheard and ran to see if she was OK. And I can't find any evidence of it online but I'm pretty sure Terra's injuries were more severe than they showed. I like Connie as an actress but the choices she made for Debra were weird. Her breathy voice and then even the "Honey, what's wrong?" calm and drugged out response when her daughter calls screaming that she killed her husband. And the show made it look like Debra visited John before she visited her daughter. WTF if that's true. Come on, Debra!
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    Surviving R. Kelly

    And it begins! Hopefully this documentary did the job and he'll spend time in jail soon. I would imagine that any sort of search warrant would uncover cases and cases of child pornography that would hopefully be enough to get him share a jail cell with Jared from Subway for the rest of their disgusting lives. https://www.vulture.com/2019/01/r-kelly-case-georgia-surviving-r-kelly.html
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    S01.E07: Chivalry

    Ah, OK. So he had photos of that guy that he was going to show his wife. Makes more sense. That part confused me.
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    S01.E07: Chivalry

    I'm confused as to what was going on with the Narcotics Anonymous leader. From what I can gather - John slept with the leader's wife. Took photos of her. And was now blackmailing the Al-Anon leader to keep getting clean pee or he'd send the photos to everyone. Is that right?
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    Surviving R. Kelly

    So that family essentially sold R. Kelly a sex slave for $9 million and some job security. Insanity.
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    Surviving R. Kelly

    The only thing that I can think of with the parents is that they knew but assumed they were smarter than he is. The one I saw this the most with was Sparkle. She kind of sneered at his wife when she talked about how she had to ask permission to eat. I think she thought she was smart and tough and knew his game so she could win his game, not realizing that he was way too good at his game. She was shocked that her niece was there without her. I also think that Sparkle thought they had an agreement of sorts. He was good to her so he’d be good to her people. I think some of the parents were like that too. The one mom even said she’d been in jail. I think she thought she was savvy and smart. I would bet they all warned those girls but had no idea how manipulative and evil he really is. I really think most of them “othered” the victims. “Sure he abuses other people but they are poor and dumb. I am smart. I am not a victim. He respects my talent.” And then they’re manipulated into his terrible world. I also wondered if the “boy toy” was in a “relationship” with the TMZ girl. TMZ girl seemed at a higher level in his world. She was allowed to travel without him. I wonder if the rescued girl was maybe afraid of R Kelly and of the other girl too. Abused and manipulated by both.
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    S01.E06: One Shoe

    Debra should have figured out how to get John out of the house, gotten her stuff, then gone to get the money out and disappeared from him. I hope she takes the thing off her car now that she's leaving. But oh well, hindsight. I'm glad she got out.
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    S01.E04: Shrapnel

    For real. I'm divorced once and it's going to be a LONG time before I consider marriage again. If ever. Debra and her mother seem to both equate love with being needed. Debra needs a man in her life to feel worthy and she's willing to overlook a lot of issues for the emotional security of a marriage. Debra's mother seemed really affected by the brother-in-law's desperation. You tell that she just did not understand why her daughter would rather be alone - It's like she was thinking "This guy wants you so badly! He really really wants you! Why on earth would you leave someone who needs to be with you?" So it almost seems like there's a part of her that blamed her daughter for her death. Like if she'd just agreed to stay with him, none of that would have ever happened.
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    S01.E03: Remember It Was Me

    Well, she had two kids with him. I don't agree with her choice but I can see where she would have made that decision. It's easier to raise kids with someone than on your own. I think a lot of women fall into that. I think when the other nurse laid it on the line and pointed out that she could lose literally everything if the drug use came out - I think that's when she realized she needed to get out. She could lose her job. She could lose her kids. She could lose everything. I think she was willing to lose some self-respect and stick with a cheater but she wasn't going to lose everything for him. And John's friends were such assholes. I'm not surprised. Birds of a feather and all that. I love that we got a full flashback with his previous wife. It was amazing to see him work his "magic" on someone else. Someone who honestly seems smarter than Debra. I give her credit for figuring things and confronting him and then leaving him. But yes, his attitude when she confronted him about the affair was chilling. It was like "OK, so I guess we have to talk about this because YOU want to." and not even at all apologetic.
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    S01.E02: Red Flags and Parades

    There's a line in Bojack Horseman that goes: "You know, it's funny; when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags." And I think there are so many people who fall for this not only in love but friendship and jobs and neighbors and daycare centers and church leaders and all sorts of other things. When you want to find problems with something, you can find them. But when you really want to believe that this person is good, you'll find the clues for good. I find this 50% inspiring and 50% depressing.
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    S01.E02: Red Flags and Parades

    Doh! Sorry. But yes, I think for the most part the couple can decide when and how to meet the family. I just was taken aback by the fact that the daughter was like "Please no and here is why" and the mom was like "OK, I guess?" and then did what she wanted to do anyway. Oh Debra. Don't ever change.
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