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    All Episodes Talk: Crime And Punishment

    Ah, thanks, LittleIggy. So his family can pay his million dollar bail for him and buy him that snide lawyer and the other lawyer who read Amy's private diary out loud, but when it comes to paying the victims, family doesn't count. Dateline should warn us when the ending is so unsatisfactory.
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    All Episodes Talk: Crime And Punishment

    That case about Trent's murder left me so frustrated. The murderer walks free after five years of time served. Trent's parents won the wrongful death suit but haven't received a penny from the murderer's rich family. Why is it the law doesn't make people pay in these cases? Worst of all, Amy's life is ruined, she has to stay in hiding, fearful, never seeing her family, for the rest of her life and it was all for nothing.
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    S38 Reem Daly

    Plus pointing to the box in the water and saying, "What's that?" was not only dumb game play, it was more of that fatal bossiness, which would order someone else to go see what it was rather than do it herself. I just noticed her bio says, "Contestant You Are Most Like: Stephenie LaGrossa, because she does not give up, and Rudy Boesch, because he just does NOT care." I have to hand it to her, she was pretty self-aware there. She's definitely not giving up and she clearly does NOT care if people like her at all.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    Well several people told me that if I couldn't be "accommodating about a charger", I shouldn't host and a dozen more agreed with them, so forgive me If I thought it was about providing people with chargers. It didn't occur to me they were talking about all those emotions you just described, because I didn't have any of those emotions. If, as you say, it was about being so put out and so thrown off then you can rest assured that I was none of the above. All that and the adjectives others have added like how I thought Beth was outrageously rude are in your own heads. All I ever said was that I thought Beth coming in and asking for a charger straight away was rude. Not wildly rude, not criminal or outrageously rude, just rude. Plus I've said I wouldn't be upset and that I would have acted as gracious as the hostess at the dinner. I know that's how I would act because my in-laws do all sorts of things at the table that I think are rude. They slurp their soup, one couple always whispers to each other whenever I bring in a new dish, another couple is always late, and one of them eats with his mouth open. I never get upset, I never have a "hissy fit" (something else attributed to me,) I don't get angry I actually feel slightly amused at how predictably adorkable they are. I still think those things they do are rude. Rude means a breach of etiquette, it doesn't mean horrifically, horrible bad. Good people do rude things all the time. I do. I catch myself interrupting and interrupting is rude. I didn't know the word rude was so inflammatory to some people. It's not a mortal sin or a criminal action it's just not Very Best Manners. Clearly some people identify so strongly with Beth that my slight criticism of her was taken as a criticism of them, but I like Beth and don't consider a minor breach of etiquette (if it even is one) as a big deal. I'm not, as accused, a total luddite, I have a computer, a DVD recorder-player, 3 TVs, lots of shiny appliances, a car and a new house with contemporary furnishings -- I just don't happen to have a cellphone for reasons explained. I'm shocked that my not having one has caused so much upset, offence, and anger.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    I'm sorry if you read anything I've said about either my choice regarding cell phones, or my marriage, as demeaning to anyone else's choices. My gosh you're in the 95% majority, surely that's enough validation for your choice? It's precisely because my choice is rare that I thought it might be interesting. Just "interesting," not in any way judging someone else's choice. It's an electronic device, not a life value! I walk with a cane. My right hand is always occupied with that cane. If I have a cellphone in my left hand I can't open doors or pick up groceries to put in my cart or carry the dog outside. I know perfectly well that this situation doesn't factor in in most people's cellphone decision, which is why I haven't mentioned it, but I'll say it now to further demonstrate why your decision to have a phone is fine by me and why my decision does not reflect negatively on yours and is not meant to demean your choice in anyway. You're in the majority, everyone agrees with you. Enjoy.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    I agree with this and it's part of why it seemed rude to me --first time there, just arrived, people already sitting down to dinner -- etc. I'm like Beth, I think she's great. I can like someone and still think they made a minor etiquette mistake. The last one of these four page arguments was last year when I thought Randall was rude for telling Rebecca and Miguel they should have called first after they stopped at his house on the way home from a play. The hostess, of course, was perfectly polite just as I am when people are late to dinner at my house. I don't know why anyone thought I expected the hostess to act any other way or "have a hissy fit." One never responds to rudeness with rudeness. Might she have sighed inwardly at one more delay to her dinner? I think she might have. My, 'I'm a silly baby boomer," was just in reply to the post I was answering that concluded with "I'm a silly millennial." Didn't mean to throw my generation under the bus. All my old friends have cell phones. One of them frets every time we meet for lunch because, "What if something happens on the way and you can't call me!" Note, she's not worried about me being hurt in an accident, but herself sitting in a restaurant uninformed. I love her though and I'm willing to look at all the grandchildren pictures on all my friends phones. The charger thing really is something new and interesting to me. I had always just figured you set your phone in something at night and viola you were charged for the day by morning.It's fine that others love their phones, but now that I know the added inconvenience of the regular need for charging I'm even more convinced one wouldn't be worth the bother to me. I realize 95% of people have cellphones. I've just never wanted a phone myself because (1)I didn't want to keep track of the thing, (2) I like being "alone" when I go shopping or where ever, (3)I like having my landline act as butler, picking up and screening my calls, (4) carrying a phone all the time would make me feel less independent. (5) I happen to think that someone like Beth is safer driving 2 hours without a phone than with one. Phones don't keep you from having accidents, but they're involved in causing accidents quite often. Just imagine if she had been driving when she heard Randall's voicemail.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    There's no straw man, not one but three separate people said that if I couldn't accommodate people with chargers then I shouldn't host. I"ve already said I don't fault Beth at all for being late, so I don't get the "nothing she did would satisfy you" part. I not only don't fault her for being late I don't think she needs to apologize for not calling even if she could have, because I don't think calling first would have made much difference even if she could have. The only thing I said against Saint Beth is that I thought it was rude (just a minor rudeness not a federal offense about equal to burping) to ask for a charger the minute she got there. If she was planning to eat and run, immediately after dinner, then I guess it's true, she wouldn't have time to charge it before leaving and she would have to drive 2 hours with a dead phone. So what? I drive 16 hour stretches with no phone on a regular basis, it doesn't seem like a big deal to me. No. Why do you think charging a phone has the same importance as using the restroom? One is a vital physical need and the other is an entirely unimportant option that can wait indefinitely.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    I just did a search to see what Miss Manners says about chargers. She says guests should bring their own chargers the way they bring their own toothbrushes, but she's old, so I don't trust her to have kept up. I think this guy's probably more up to date.: about chargers all intended for hosts to provide for their guests. Like the ones that run under the couch so you can have chargers at both ends and in the middle of the couch in case, heaven forbid, someone sitting in the middle can't reach. And that tower for larger groups? Awesome. As Dr. Phil might say this has been a changing day in my life. I couldn't be more surprised if you guys had told me I should be providing a gas pump in the front yard for my next party so everyone can fill up their tanks before leaving.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    Do you have phone chargers all over your house? Do you think it's wrong to entertain if you don't? Do your parents have them? Do they host?
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    I don't know anything at all about your mother. I've been talking about Beth and Randall and occasionally about parenting in general, but never about your mother. It's great that she had a big career and you had a great childhood. I take her at her word, too, and don't blame her for being late. I never said I thought she was rude for being late, and I don't think it would have been any help to her hostess if Beth had been able to tell her she was going to be late, the pork chops would have been just as dry. What I thought was rude was not being late, but asking for a charger. That was a circumstance within her control. I would have thought she was rude if she had asked for a napkin. It would have been very easy for her hostess to go get her a napkin. The point wasn't how hard a thing was, but that, purposely or not, Beth had already been a lot of extra trouble for her hostess and it wasn't a good moment to be asking favors, even teeny tiny ones. It was a good time to sit down and eat and forget her damn phone until after the meal.  She was a nice hostess, but Beth did ask for a phone charger before it was offered. I would have done the same thing the hostess did if I had a charger. I just told my husband that some people think we can't have people for dinner anymore because we don't have phone chargers. He wants to know if we can still have barbeques this summer?
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    Hoarders

    Carolina Girl's baby already looks like she's seen one too many Hoarders episodes.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    Only you didn't say "within reason," you just said it was her job to be accommodating. I think the idea of peeing on the floor was kind of extreme myself. Of course if you think getting that phone charged is as vital and urgent as peeing when you have to go, then that's probably the root of why we don't see eye to eye on this.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    No, I wasn't saying it was, but Pepsinger said it was a host's job to be accommodating and I was disagreeing with that notion and giving a few examples of things I don't think a hostess is responsible for. I'll put it this way. When I have people for dinner and they don't show up on time, it can be nerve wracking trying to keep that meal hot without drying it out and then finally deciding the moment has come when the whole thing will be ruined if we don't eat right now. If, then, that late person comes in and causes any further delay at all,* it's sort of adding insult to injury. It's last straw time and it shows a lack of awareness of what a pain in the ass you've already been. *Other than going to pee.
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    S03.E16: Don't Take My Sunshine Away

    Really? A host's job is to do whatever the guests want you to do? Stop dinner and iron your shirt? Give you a perm? Toss out the pork chops and fix you a steak? If you aren't willing to accommodate your guests demands you shouldn't be hosting them? I think the guest has a few jobs, like being on time, and if circumstances make you late then you sit right down at the table and start eating rather than cause further delay by asking for favors. I don't own the essential phone charger so I guess I'll have to forgo any future dinner parties. I mistakenly thought it was all about providing a nice meal in pleasant surroundings. I guess I'm just a silly baby boomer.
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    Jeopardy! Season 35 (2018-2019)

    Hee. We named our cat Mickey Mouse. When the vet encouraged me by laughing, I told him his mafia name was Mickey the Mouser. By the time he'd been in that office twenty times for diabetes problems I think they loved our cat more than we did. How do you all stand the constant loss?
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