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A friend staying here for the weekend went fishing last night. He got bit on his forearm. I swear the wheal was as big as a silver dollar. He even noted it itched on that whole side of its body. He said mosquito but he didn’t really get a good look as it was dusk. With yellow fever, Zika and Leishmaniasis (we do get sand flies, gnats etc too...it’s on the Intracoastal) I got scared for him as 6 hrs later that raised bump was still there. Pesky or worse. 

@SunnyBeBe Fleas can live in our yards. They make these pellets that you can spread on your lawn to kill or lessen them. You might want to look into it. I know people who do it because as much as they give their dogs monthly treatments, there always seem to be flea ridden. These do help. 

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12 minutes ago, Mindthinkr said:

A friend staying here for the weekend went fishing last night. He got bit on his forearm. I swear the wheal was as big as a silver dollar. He even noted it itched on that whole side of its body. He said mosquito but he didn’t really get a good look as it was dusk. With yellow fever, Zika and Leishmaniasis (we do get sand flies, gnats etc too...it’s on the Intracoastal) I got scared for him as 6 hrs later that raised bump was still there. Pesky or worse. 

@SunnyBeBe Fleas can live in our yards. They make these pellets that you can spread on your lawn to kill or lessen them. You might want to look into it. I know people who do it because as much as they give their dogs monthly treatments, there always seem to be flea ridden. These do help. 

Thanks.  We have used Nemotodes before. Is that what you are referring to?  I suppose it's better than nothing, but, I'm not so sure they do a great job. It's still a recurring problem.  I think that some places are just worse than others.  I have lived in other places before and it wasn't an issue.  This place is and I'm not sure why.  What annoys me is that I know people who have dogs and cats who come in and out of their house all the time and they don't have recurring issues with fleas.  Go figure. 

I'd watch that bite on your friend's arm.  I have bad reactions too. Benedryl helps me. 

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PEEVE! Online sellers--like Ebay & Poshmark and the like--who do not supply obvious and relevant information (or post just one photo). For instance, if I'm searching for bell bottoms and you don't show the bottom of the pants. Also, boot-cut is NOT bell bottom. Further, "retro" and "vintage" are not the same, and I can tell what's '70s and what's '70s by way of the '90s. And just because it's black doesn't mean it's goth!

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23 minutes ago, TattleTeeny said:

PEEVE! Online sellers--like Ebay & Poshmark and the like--who do not supply obvious and relevant information (or post just one photo). For instance, if I'm searching for bell bottoms and you don't show the bottom of the pants. Also, boot-cut is NOT bell bottom. Further, "retro" and "vintage" are not the same, and I can tell what's '70s and what's '70s by way of the '90s. And just because it's black doesn't mean it's goth!

Try Amazon, look for the Vibrant brand.

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Yikes, what a crazy person! I hate it when people use "religion" (and I'm putting that in quotes because I believe people of real faith don't do this) as a weapon to intimidate or try to humiliate others.

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A friend staying here for the weekend went fishing last night. He got bit on his forearm. I swear the wheal was as big as a silver dollar. He even noted it itched on that whole side of its body. He said mosquito but he didn’t really get a good look as it was dusk. With yellow fever, Zika and Leishmaniasis (we do get sand flies, gnats etc too...it’s on the Intracoastal) I got scared for him as 6 hrs later that raised bump was still there. Pesky or worse. 

If the bite felt almost like a bee or wasp sting, it might have been a horse fly.  Those bite and they hurt like heck when they do.  I think the bite spot can get red, itch and swell up for a time. 

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2 hours ago, Mannahatta said:

Some people make me regret leaving my home.....So I pull into a crowded U-shaped gas station and there is a black SUV following me. I drive around the U and pull in front of an available gas pump. The black SUV is now a few yards in front of me, stationary, and at a perpendicular angle. A woman in her Sunday best gets out and tells me she was backing into that very pump. There was no way for me to know this as I drove into the space, plus I'm already in the space. Also, she had been right behind me when I had driven into the station, so it wasn't like she had been waiting a long time for it. Naturally I'm a little surprised at her request. I hesitate a moment and she immediately says "I'm a pastor." I'm thinking "What does that have to do with anything?" (I hate it when people try to pull rank, especially when it's of the holier-than-thou nature.) So now she has irked me, but I politely tell her it will just take me 5 minutes. (I have a small car and I'm using a credit card so it actually took me less time.)

She then loudly makes this pronouncement: "I'm a pastor and you're going to Hell." Whaaa? I asked the obvious question: "I'm going to Hell because you can't wait 5 minutes?" So she drove away to another pump probably feeling very Godly and smug. In fact, I suspect she's probably always on the look-out for opportunities in which she can feel Godly and smug..... All I can say is that I pity the people who are in her congregation. That woman was nothing more than a narcissist hiding behind the cloak of religiosity. Nevertheless, her creepiness did have an effect on me. I had planned to do some food shopping but instead I fled to the tranquility of my home. Sometimes those random encounters with creepy people really shake me up.

Did it happen this morning?  Maybe she was late?  She shouldn't have behaved that way, but she may have been in a hurry to get to her service.  

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9 minutes ago, PRgal said:

Did it happen this morning?  Maybe she was late?  She shouldn't have behaved that way, but she may have been in a hurry to get to her service.  

All the more reason why being so intolerant and judgemental was in bad form. 

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I'm not a pastor (nor do I play one on TV), but I don't recall ever reading anything in the Bible that would remotely support that woman's conclusion. If anything, she's not practicing the Golden Rule, AKA "do unto others …"

Then again, maybe she preaches at the Church of Me First.

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My neighbor, who has the sweetest Southern accent, walks her little dog several times a day.  Our area has no sidewalks so we have to walk in the street and motorists are usually very cautious when going through the residential neighborhoods.

Today a not so cautious motorist came by - way too fast for a residential neighborhood and way way too fast for a residential neighborhood with no sidewalks.

That earned him a "Slow it down Asshole!" from Marilyn, all said in her sweet voice.  Incongruous.

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35 minutes ago, PRgal said:

Did it happen this morning?  Maybe she was late?  She shouldn't have behaved that way, but she may have been in a hurry to get to her service.  

But she didn't say, "I'm late to work" (which wouldn't have been an excuse, either), she pulled the pastor card.

A related peeve is when someone is a pastor/reverend/nun/whatever and nothing else is known about them (e.g. a witness identified by her or his profession), yet it is supposed to be assumed they are credible, honest, good, etc. just based on that profession.  Um, no.  They may be.  They may be an asshole.  I'll wait and see, thanks.

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17 minutes ago, Bastet said:

But she didn't say, "I'm late to work" (which wouldn't have been an excuse, either), she pulled the pastor card.

A related peeve is when someone is a pastor/reverend/nun/whatever and nothing else is known about them (e.g. a witness identified by her or his profession), yet it is supposed to be assumed they are credible, honest, good, etc. just based on that profession.  Um, no.  They may be.  They may be an asshole.  I'll wait and see, thanks.

I guess they're still folks out there who haven't looked at the news in the last 30 years.

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56 minutes ago, PRgal said:

Did it happen this morning?  Maybe she was late?  She shouldn't have behaved that way, but she may have been in a hurry to get to her service.  

Actually it occurred in the afternoon. And her facial expression didn't convey a need for haste as much as a look of self-righteous triumph. Generally I try to see other people's points of view. But in her case she seemed to believe that her station in life gave her special powers - like damning me to Hell.  LOL

But thanks to everyone's feedback here I feel so much better! I guess I'll venture out later. Give that food shopping thing another try. 

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33 minutes ago, Bastet said:

But she didn't say, "I'm late to work" (which wouldn't have been an excuse, either), she pulled the pastor card.

A related peeve is when someone is a pastor/reverend/nun/whatever and nothing else is known about them (e.g. a witness identified by her or his profession), yet it is supposed to be assumed they are credible, honest, good, etc. just based on that profession.  Um, no.  They may be.  They may be an asshole.  I'll wait and see, thanks.

I went to divinity school and can confirm that some religious leaders are indeed assholes. And narcissists. And some are genuinely lovely.

(I did not study to be a minister. I may or may not be an asshole, but last week someone referred to me as delightful, so I’m going with that.)

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5 hours ago, peacheslatour said:

Try Amazon, look for the Vibrant brand.

Maybe I shall--thanks! Like I need another pair of jeans, haha!

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"We're already in Hell, so the joke's on you!"

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For many people they’ve found bug relief from an ancient concoction called “Vinegar of the four thieves “.    Some sites sell the herb mixture and all you have to do is add the vinegar.

 

Lucky for me, I live in an area in which mosquitos are rare.  

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I thought that pastors are supposed to have a servant's heart. God grants them this so that they may be in service to others in his ministry.   Maybe, the lady with the snippy and impatient attitude hasn't gotten that gift yet. lol

One of my top 10 peeves has to be PEOPLE WHO ARE THE LEAST EQUIPPED TO OWN A PET, HAVING ONE OR MORE THAN ONE! I must have posted about it before.  I'm reminded of it again, because there is another neighborhood puppy who will not stop yelping.  The owner knows, as they are outside with the dog.  If a dog yelps for over 3 hours, wouldn't you adjust his situation or get him to a vet?  I can't figure these people out.  They have no little to no time to devote to the care, training and maintenance of a dog, but, they like to get them and keep them in a fenced area.  They spend no time with them, except for providing food and water.    Why do they want these pets? I just don't get it. A dog wants to be part of the family, not doomed to a life of seclusion.  

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Apologies if I've already shared this -- we used to have neighbors who were not good pet owners. When their adorable, yet yippee, little schnauzer had puppies, they would crawl under the fence into our yard. This didn't bother us except for the fact that since we have no pets, our gate wasn't dog-proof, so the puppies could escape into the front yard and eventually to the street. One day I called home from work and Mom gave me the play-by-play: one of the puppies is in our yard … make that two, no, three …

The puppies all got adopted, then the mama schauzer got out and someone kept her - we'd see her being walked on a leash. Then the neighbor's brother gave him an Australian shepherd -- not a breed that should be kept in a small urban back yard. The man would take the dog to his farm on the weekends, where the dog had plenty of roaming space. Then back to the city during the week, which obviously caused the dog stress, as he would run around the yard howling and jump up to seemingly try to attack anyone who was near the fence. Eventually, the man took him to the farm for the weekend and the dog ran off. Good for him, I hope he found a more caring owner.

The same neighbors moved across town and abandoned their cat, which we fostered for nearly a year before finding him a home. I'd be in favor of a citizen's arrest policy (at least the ability to fine them) for bad pet owners.

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Dear Amazon, please stop asking me to "Pick a Charity" whenever I log into my account! Since I click on the "no thanks" button every single time you'd think they would figure out that I'm all set, just have it under "options" for when I change my mind! Also, I don't need to update my income every other month! Jeez Louise, it's not like I get a quarterly raise! Just let me get to my account! 

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my pet peeve is being interrupted.   Especially by people who ASK me a question.   If you ask me a question, listen to my answer.  Don't cut me off after 5 words to tell me I'm wrong.  I can't be wrong yet, I haven't come to the end of the sentence.  

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I'm all for charities, but, it seems that I can't go anywhere that I'm not asked to give.  It's designed to shame people who say no, imo.  I do what I can, but, don't like feeling that I'm being pressured with every purchase at the grocery store, the drug store, etc. The local fire departments, (who I adore and respect) have started having fireman stand in intersections and hold up a boot to collect donations.  I feel bad if I don't cash on me, but, I also wonder about the safety aspects of doing that. 

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It's designed to shame people who say no, imo.

Yes! I had a guy call for one of the first responders fund, I can't remember if it was police or firefighters. I politely declined to donate and the guy pressed, so then I explained that I am self employed and could not give. He then said, oh, come on, you can give $25. I hung up.

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4 minutes ago, forumfish said:

Yes! I had a guy call for one of the first responders fund, I can't remember if it was police or firefighters. I politely declined to donate and the guy pressed, so then I explained that I am self employed and could not give. He then said, oh, come on, you can give $25. I hung up.

Police and firefighters DO NOT solicit donations on the phone. It's a scam.

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1 hour ago, peacheslatour said:

Police and firefighters DO NOT solicit donations on the phone. It's a scam.

I don't know about that.  The firefighters call me every year and they sell concert tickets.  I actually get the tickets (although I admit I don't go), so I doubt it's a scam.  That surely couldn't go on year after year.  Some people must actually go to the concert after all.

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2 minutes ago, Katy M said:

I don't know about that.  The firefighters call me every year and they sell concert tickets.  I actually get the tickets (although I admit I don't go), so I doubt it's a scam.  That surely couldn't go on year after year.  Some people must actually go to the concert after all.

That's different. It's when they call wanting donations to some made up "Law Enforcement Guild" or something. Concert tickets are something that are a verifiable, tangible but imaginary police funds are a scam.

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6 hours ago, SunnyBeBe said:

I'm all for charities, but, it seems that I can't go anywhere that I'm not asked to give.  It's designed to shame people who say no, imo.  I do what I can, but, don't like feeling that I'm being pressured with every purchase at the grocery store, the drug store, etc. The local fire departments, (who I adore and respect) have started having fireman stand in intersections and hold up a boot to collect donations.  I feel bad if I don't cash on me, but, I also wonder about the safety aspects of doing that. 

At my local Ace Hardware the debit/credit card machine asks if you want to round up to the nearest dollar by donating to a specific charity.  That works for me.

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If I see one more meme (posted by people who don’t know how television works) about how The View should be canceled for whatever stupid reason, I am going to lose it. I have never seen an episode of The View (though I once watched a clip because Christopher Meloni was on it!) and advise these dumb meme posters to follow in my footsteps if they don’t like the show. 

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20 minutes ago, TattleTeeny said:

If I see one more meme (posted by people who don’t know how television works) about how The View should be canceled for whatever stupid reason, I am going to lose it.

I guess they didn't pay extra to get a tv with the Power button.

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Or those super-fancy channel-changing mechanisms!

I'm guessing that these people don't watch the show anyway (and again, neither do I) but are merely responding to allegations that those on the show may or may not have said something unflattering toward some person or another that these meme-posters blindly support. 

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I got my official call from the "IRS" today about how I am "maliciously not compliance with my tax filings and a police officer will be at my location within 24 hours to seize my custody". I'm terrified y'all, the computerized voice sounded so totally legit.

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1 hour ago, emma675 said:

I got my official call from the "IRS" today about how I am "maliciously not compliance with my tax filings and a police officer will be at my location within 24 hours to seize my custody". I'm terrified y'all, the computerized voice sounded so totally legit.

Yeah, scammers up to it again.  Beware of those who want to get you to say, Yes. I suppose for a recording.  There favorite is, Can you hear me now?  So phony.   I had one call me once, pretending to be from HP to help me with some problems they had detected on my computer!  lol Right......I told them that I was appreciative, but, I'd have to call THEM back.  I did and HP said it was not them.....it was a scam to get into my computer. 

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Some moron called me once and said my computer was asking him to help me, so turn on my computer and do what he said. It was already on, but I just started laughing and said, "Oh, no." Then I submitted his phone number to the FTC.

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Facebook of late should just rename itself False-EquivalencyBook!

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16 hours ago, TattleTeeny said:

If I see one more meme (posted by people who don’t know how television works) about how The View should be canceled for whatever stupid reason, I am going to lose it. I have never seen an episode of The View (though I once watched a clip because Christopher Meloni was on it!) and advise these dumb meme posters to follow in my footsteps if they don’t like the show. 

It's mostly because people see it as a liberal show.  There's also a photo-shopped pic going around with Whoopi Goldberg wearing a tshirt that says something insulting about the president.  She has shown that it was photo-shopped, has shown the original, and the actual shirt she was wearing that day.  but the fake photo is being spread around as a reason to cancel the show. 

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Why do we need to wait until a celebrity's death to talk about mental illness?  We should ALWAYS be talking about it - until it is completely destigmatized.  #justsayin

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8 hours ago, backformore said:

It's mostly because people see it as a liberal show.  There's also a photo-shopped pic going around with Whoopi Goldberg wearing a tshirt that says something insulting about the president.  She has shown that it was photo-shopped, has shown the original, and the actual shirt she was wearing that day.  but the fake photo is being spread around as a reason to cancel the show. 

Yeah, this bugs me--and not even just about politically adjacent things. There seems to be a glut of people who really believe that just because they see a photo with words on it, it must be real (my aunts and uncles, and my BF's mom come to mind). They just don't seem to understand or accept that I could make one in two minutes! Even those dumb ads for T-shirts that say shit like "Don't mess with an Aquarius girl" or something--because, no, Jennifer Lopez and Norman Reedus and whoever else are not wearing those as they roam about Hollywood!

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There is way too much not checking the validity of things before you repost and go off

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I have to admit, I do enjoy watching people become enraged over Onion articles though!

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On 6/5/2018 at 7:57 PM, emma675 said:

I got my official call from the "IRS" today about how I am "maliciously not compliance with my tax filings and a police officer will be at my location within 24 hours to seize my custody". I'm terrified y'all, the computerized voice sounded so totally legit.

That's the spirit :) I mean, how bad can the scammers get and still hope to earn something from it?  

7 hours ago, PRgal said:

Why do we need to wait until a celebrity's death to talk about mental illness?  We should ALWAYS be talking about it - until it is completely destigmatized.  #justsayin

I don't think it's true that we are not talking about mental illness and I don't think it's stigmatised within the public at large. Some specific illnesses might still be not talked about much, but in general ? I think they are in the public eye.  

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23 minutes ago, NutMeg said:

That's the spirit :) I mean, how bad can the scammers get and still hope to earn something from it?  

I don't think it's true that we are not talking about mental illness and I don't think it's stigmatised within the public at large. Some specific illnesses might still be not talked about much, but in general ? I think they are in the public eye.  

Less stigmatized than, say, 10 years ago, but there are people out there who don't believe that certain people can have depression.  Then there are those who don't feel comfortable talking about it as they're worried it'll ruin their (or their family's) reputation.  See this article from the Kansas City Star.  And yes, for some, a family's reputation IS a thing (especially in many East Asian cultures).  

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22 minutes ago, PRgal said:

Then there are those who don't feel comfortable talking about it as they're worried it'll ruin their (or their family's) reputation. 

I've had several friends with severe depression/anxiety disorders that FORBADE me from telling anyone about it because they were afraid of not being not being taken seriously, or something.  Even though their periodic panic attacks and collapses into agoraphobia would be interpreted as flakiness if not rudeness by their friends who didn't know they were ill.  Very sad.

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2 minutes ago, ratgirlagogo said:

I've had several friends with severe depression/anxiety disorders that FORBADE me from telling anyone about it because they were afraid of not being not being taken seriously, or something.  Even though their periodic panic attacks and collapses into agoraphobia would be interpreted as flakiness if not rudeness by their friends who didn't know they were ill.  Very sad.

Or people who believe that it can't happen to successful people who "look happy."  High functioning depression is a thing.  

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24 minutes ago, PRgal said:

Less stigmatized than, say, 10 years ago, but there are people out there who don't believe that certain people can have depression.  Then there are those who don't feel comfortable talking about it as they're worried it'll ruin their (or their family's) reputation.  See this article from the Kansas City Star.  And yes, for some, a family's reputation IS a thing (especially in many East Asian cultures).  

Wow, that is weird. I first came across having to list you past mental illnesses is Asia, which was so weird to me, because it's such a wide spectrum and with some of it really not relevant.

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11 hours ago, PRgal said:

Why do we need to wait until a celebrity's death to talk about mental illness?  We should ALWAYS be talking about it - until it is completely destigmatized.  #justsayin

I got to the part of the story where it said she left a note for her 13 year old daughter saying “This has nothing to do with you. Don’t feel guilty. Ask your dad.” and I got really upset. 

13 is too young to get it. Good luck to dad on doing what he needs to do. 

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Most networks have unskippable commercials when you watch shows on their websites. Okay, can't really argue with that. But some have now taken to removing the status/option bar when ads are on so viewers can't mute. minimize, etc. Firefox has a mute option on their browser tab, and even that sometimes goes away during commercials.

I can always turn sound off via my laptop controls, but it's starting to feel a little Clockwork Orange-ish around here.

Bonus peeve: Websites that make fun of Walmart shoppers and the like. I'm so sorry that everyone doesn't meet your high personal beauty standards, whoever the classist assholes are who create those.

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