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  1. Same. It's not just difficult to write yourself out of that corner, but it hasn't exactly made for the most compelling season either. I know, most people didn't like the ALIE storyline, but IMHO she made a good villain. I think if they end up in the bunker, they will probably do a time jump and set the next season five years later. I get why some wouldn't want Clark as the commander and it's also somewhat predictable, but I actually do want to have her as the commander, especially since it would change the status quo of the show a little bit. Sure, there would probably still be shifting alliances and backstabbing, but at least it would change the outsider status of Skaikru. So I was screaming with anticipation when the ceremony began, only to be let down. Octavia being back to being a super-warrior is kind of silly, after she was knocking on death's door only a couple of episodes ago. I get that they want her to be their warrior princess, but come on, The 100 writers, then don't do such silly death cop-outs storylines. I know this is science-fiction, but they were doing the physical disability storyline with Raven, so they should not make other characters special unicorns. Raven's f
  2. Even if it's a phrase in her profile, I think the question itself sounds too much like an ambiguous pick-up line or maybe I'm just trained to read too much into phrases like that, since seemingly neutral phrases can often have an entirely different meaning on gay apps. No, but usually, when I text someone for the first time, I try to find something in their profile that works as a conversation starter. Like, this one guy had FRIENDS as an interest in his profile and I just started a conversation by asking him which character from the show he identified the most with and it did help to get the conversation started, though apparently that was still a weird question for him, because he forgot that he had put FRIENDS into his profile as an interest. The worst thing someone can do is an ambiguous question that could be interpreted sexually or just starting with a compliment. "You're beautiful", "great eyes" or whatever might sound perfectly fine in theory, but I always hate it when guys do that and when I did the same thing a couple of times in the past, the response wasn't particularly great either. On Saturday, I'm going on another coffee date with a guy I've been chatting with these last few weeks, though I don't see him as a romantic partner, because he's too young, six or seven years younger than me. I do think we will get along great though. My other dating adventures have kind of ended. Neither of the guys I went out with has kept in touch for the last two weeks and while it could theoretically just mean that they're busy, I feel like it is not a particularly great sign either. If there was more of an interest, they'd find like 30 seconds to text just a "hey", even if they are busy. I've also gotten kind of sick of the whole active dating thing, so I've deleted all the apps again. I just don't feel like I'm very good at it. It was an interesting experience though.
  3. The show may be called GIRLS, but it was always mostly about Hannah. The other girls were merely supporting characters. That's why I never thought that the title was an accurate reflection of the show and that's also why it was pretty easy for me to come to terms with the other girls not being in the finale, even though I was initially disappointed when I heard about it. You have pointed out wonderfully what's wrong with Shosh. Also, let's not forget that Riz Ahmed's character suggested the name. If Riz Ahmed suggested that I should name my child pancake or bread, I would most likely do it. Who can resist those eyes?
  4. That's funny, because I thought, for all their flaws, Hannah and Marnie were actually more likeable than Shosh and Elijah, who seem to get a lot more leeway, because they're funny and a little more self-aware, but that makes their own shallowness and self-centredness even worse. I don't really think that was the message of the final season. Hannah didn't automatically grow up by having a baby, the finale pretty much emphasized that. She's forced to grow up now that she has baby, but the finale emphasized that she hasn't automatically gained a new level of maturity by the virtue of giving birth and I didn't see Hannah smile in the camera coyly, proclaiming "I'm a mother now! My life finally has meaning!". I feel like the pregnancy has been portrayed in a way that Hannah made a decision for her life, but it doesn't automatically end her struggles and her search for meaning in her life. Chances are she is going to quit her job and leave her child with her Mom for a couple of months, we just don't get to see that.
  5. I don't get the negative response to the episode at all, I thought the finale was a pretty good episode in its own right and I don't think this episode was a filler episode, since it was an episode that showed Hannah struggling with early motherhood and slowly adjusting to the idea of what it means to be a mother, which is a pretty major development for her. I also don't think there was anything to wrap up at this point. I mean, should every character have gotten an dream ending, with conflicts resolved, new baes and amazing new accomplishments? No, that would have been a cliché and I was already somewhat disappointed that they went into that direction with Ray, Elijah and Shoshana. Sure, I would have liked to have all the main characters in the final episodes, but honestly, it's not surprising that they weren't. This show has always been very focused on Hannah. I am pretty sure Hannah makes up at least 70% of all the screen time on the show throughout the years. I really loved all the scenes with Marnie, especially the teaser, because it's interesting seeing friendship portrayed as a competition to win. How wonderfully self-absorbed. Marnie was in a pretty bad place for most of the last few seasons, so she decided to join Hannah, because 1.) she needed to proclaim the title of "best friend" for her self-worth and 2.) she needed to run away from making decisions for her own life. Since everything has kind of backfired in recent seasons, she wasn't ready to confront her own life. And even though she didn't decide to join Hannah for entirely altruistic reasons. I did also love Hannah's fight with Lorene, because it was just really well written and it was also a great acknowledgement how you don't immediately gain a lot of maturity after childhood. It's a continuous process and Hannah is at the beginning of it.
  6. The HBO website states that it's 31 minutes long.
  7. I prefer Joan Callamezzo. I love her. I kind of liked that Ann was always the sane one among a bunch of crazies and I thought Rashida could be very funny at times too.
  8. I guess it depends on what they do with the show now that Jessica's backstory has somewhat fallen away. I wonder whether they will start releasing more Marvel shows per year once The Defenders has dropped. It seems to defeat the purpose of a TV series if you only release two Marvel shows per year with a 2-year-waiting period for a new season.
  9. They did the evil slayer thing with Faith though, so I can understand that they abandoned that idea. Not sure if it would have really added anything if you would have had a slayer vampire, especially since the grey area that they explored with Faith would have fallen away.
  10. I don't think he regrets quitting the series. He has been fairly successful on his own, starring in a bunch of independent movies. Remember: not every actor is acting, because they're in it for the money or fame. I don't think he would have broken out the same way Adam Driver did, because for that they would have had to give him the same kind of material to work with.
  11. I really enjoyed the episode and that there wasn't a magical cure for the girls' "friendship". Though I must say that Shoshanna is really not better than any of the rest of them. She is really not looking for friends, but for people that represent a certain status that she can feel superior with. As we saw a couple of episodes ago, she dropped her former friends for Jessa, because she thought Jessa's European attitude was cool. Now she's dropping Hannah and the others for friends with "cute purses", "jobs" and "nice personalities", but that's really not what friendships are about. Friendships are about mutual appreciation and support, about being there for each other in hard times, about accepting each other's flaws. What Shosh really wants is a good image and while it's good that she keeps calling the others out on their narcissism, she should be called out on her thorough shallowness. I think the other girls grew this season in realizing that they cannot always blame other people for what goes wrong in their lives and taking responsibility for some things in their life, but Shosh really didn't (might also be due to lack of screen time though). I thought it was pretty low by Marnie not to respond to Hannah's calls after Hannah spent that entire weekend with her and Desi, supporting her. It didn't really make sense that Shosh invited Marnie, since she does not like her at all, but I can fan-wank it with Shosh inviting Marnie to show off her beautiful life. The scene between Jessa and Hannah was really nice and beautifully written. Two people admitting their mistakes, but at the same it's not magically back to status quo. Actually, those people do also exist. It's not true that only unhappy people talk and brag about their happiness. I agree, even if you apply for a job and get it, then it's a still a good thing to mull things over, especially if big change is associated with the decision to take the job.
  12. The next person would have been Bryce though. So he did actually not exactly do what Hannah asked him to do. With good reason of course. I still think however he should have actually left the tapes with Jessica rather than give them to the next person. With Hannah dead, she would be the most affected by releasing the tapes and giving them to the next person. It should have been her decision to pass them on to the guidance counsellor. And then again, of course Tony also gives a copy of the tapes to Hannah's parents, so in the end the whole show negates the idea of giving power back to Jessica, because the male characters end up doing what they think is right and Jessica has to be alright with the consequences of what the male characters decided. If Hannah's parents and Mr. Porter decide to make the tapes public for the trial, then she has no say in it at all. I think the audience needs for Bryce to be brought to justice and for this show to end on a more hopeful note, especially with kids watching who might themselves be rape survivors. I just think it would have sent a stronger message if the girls had not relied on a male character to do that for them, but if the show had actually empowered one of them by the end of it by making it Jessica's decision to come forward. In the end the show kind of made it look as if rape survivors need a male character like Clay to fight for them to make anyone believe them. (And yes, Jessica is able to tell her Dad in the last episode, so she does come forward eventually, but that comes only after Clay has taken on the role of the rape avenger.) But you know, this is also an interesting discussion, because if you're a guy who finds about something like this, it's an interesting question of what you do with it, because you want to protect the girls who this happened to and be respectful to them, but you also want to make sure that something like that doesn't happen again and for Clay to just ignore the fact that Bryce raped these two girls would have been wrong as well. So the show kind of raises the question of a man as an ally, like how can you be there for girls who have suffered through all of that. But I think it's a problem that the show becomes more about Clay's anger about what happened and less about him as an ally to Jessica and Hannah. And I think that's a valid point. Yes, I understood what led Hannah to kill herself, but I honestly think it wasn't really portrayed that well. I actually think they did a better job at portraying Alex's downward spiral than they did with Hannah. We see all these horrible things happen to Hannah, so we can definitely understand why she ended up killing herself, but her emotional journey there rang false to me in terms of how it was portrayed, but that might also be, because Hannah is really more of a narrative device in the show than a character, as much as I enjoyed her as a character. Yes, I get that the show structured itself as Hannah's and Clay's stories, I just think it would have benefitted from extending Jessica's part in the show towards the end and to make it a little bit less about Clay. Don't get me wrong guys, I still think it's a good show and I think they mostly deal with the topics very respectfully, but I think the show could have done a little more.
  13. Of course we see the rapes from Hannah's point of the view and of course we see both girls grapple with what they went through - that's besides the point I was trying to make. I don't want to criticize the show too harshly, because I think it portrays this very dark subject matter respectfully with a lot of care, but I do think there are still some issues to be had. My first point was that it is problematic that a male character such as Clay, who has had nothing to do with the rapes at all, has to be the one to seek out justice for the girls on their behalf as if they would need a noble male defender to come to their rescue. That's a trope and a pretty bad one at that - the male hero seeking justice for the wronged girl(s) (without actually having taken Jessica's needs into the equation until maybe the last episode). Secondly, it was also problematic how pushy Clay gets after he heard the tape with what happened to Jessica, his last conversation with her in the last episode might be respectful, but in the episodes before that he is very confrontational with Jessica. In the episode in which we find out about it, there is this scene in the classroom at the beginning where he confronts her with it and is particularly pushy. And yes, they did show the effect that the assault had on those girls, however my point was that it only really scratched the surface on what they were going through and what it feels like to be in such a situation. I personally think that such an experience cuts far deeper than how they actually portrayed it on the show, especially with Hannah. I don't think they portrayed what she went through between assault and suicide all that well. Jessica's downward spiral was portrayed well, but in the end they did spend more time on Clay reacting to it and confronting Bryce than they did on Jessica's and Hannah's inner turmoils after, which is still problematic. Does he actually give her back control though? He still ends up giving the tapes to Mr. Porter and telling him that he has to decide what he will do with the tapes afterwards. So while he might have decided not to say anything about the tapes when questioned about them, he still puts the decision about the tapes which reveal everything into someone else's hands.
  14. After trying to get into the first episode of Riverdale, I thought I was too old to enjoy a teen show, but I thoroughly enjoyed this series and actually binged it in two days. As I said before in the pilot thread, I really enjoyed that the teenagers in this show were actually portrayed as believable teenagers and that they were allowed to be actual highschool kids rather than overly sexualized and fashionable teen show character tropes and I think the show did a good job at crafting relatable and flawed characters who are dealing with real issues. Even more unlikeable characters like Courtney were portrayed in a way that made you at least understand where they were coming from. Aside from Bryce (and maybe Marcus), there wasn't an outright villain in this piece. I did have a couple of issues with the show though... 1.) The general conceit of the show with the tapes holds the show together nicely and makes you want to binge through the show to know what happens next, but at the same time I do also feel like it's also a major flaw, because it feels too gimmicky and undermines Hannah as a character, because it makes her look more dramatic, self-centred and vengeful than she really was portrayed in the flashbacks. The whole idea behind the tapes just didn't really track with the character I saw on screen. Additionally, including Clay on the tapes seems awfully cruel on Hannah's part, especially since she keeps mentioning how heavily everyone contributed to her decision to commit suicide, but Clay actually has to go through ten tapes to find out that she is not really blaming him and that she thinks of him fondly, which you wouldn't do to someone you appreciate. You would maybe let it slip on one of the first tapes that he wasn't like the others, but instead Hannah decided to torture Clay with what he might have done to contribute to her death and that doesn't really track with her admiration of him. Then there's also very little time spent on why exactly she trusts Tony with the tapes (they've barely had any scenes together) and why he so loyally followed her plan. I would also assume that there would have been a lot more emotion in Hannah's voice as she recorded what has happened to her, but all the voice overs are in this very neutral narrative voice as if she was recounting someone else's story. I think there was more opportunity in the voice over work to really express Hannah's pain and what she was going through, but I guess you could interpret her calm voice also just as her being numb and already having come to terms with her decision to end her life. 2.) It's kind of problematic how the stories of Hannah's and Jessica's rapes are not primarily told from their perspectives, but mediated through the tapes and Clay's reaction to the revelation. Thereby it becomes less about what the girls are going through and more about what Clay will do to get justice for the girls, which makes the storyline a lot less powerful, because what Bryce did to them is not Clay's story and it is not really his place to seek justice on behalf of the girls. I mean, I do get the narrative drive behind it to have the "hero" of the show bring forth a resolution and to bring down the villain, but they could have dug deeper into how violated the girls felt and the whole aftermath of what it did to them. I mean, they dealt with it a little bit, especially with Jessica, but I think they only scratched the surface regarding the inner turmoil the assaults caused for these girls and that's because the story is less focused on them coming to terms with it and more focused on Clay the good guy protagonist. 3.) I don't know if they are actually planning to do a second season or whether the breadcrumbs for new storylines that they left in the finale are only supposed to convey that their lives continue beyond the tapes, but I am not sure if I like the idea of a second season, because in the end it is Hannah's story and while the other characters are interesting in their own right, I don't feel like it's necessary to continue the show. I certainly would have enjoyed a more definite ending to the show. I haven't gone back and rewatched anything, but since most of the supporting characters just wanted Clay to pass on the tapes and not actually make it to the latter tapes because they feared that he would reveal everything, it kind of made sense to me that they would tell him to "just wait until his tape" and that they alluded to Clay himself having done something bad to Hannah.
  15. Did they even specify at what time the show was set? With all the 80s music being played, I kind of envisioned the show to not be set in 2017, but of course the phones make it appear as much more current show. In 2007 I didn't have a smartphone. I liked the first episode, I wasn't expecting much going into it and I'm also not the target group for a teenager-based show anymore, but I really liked that these teenagers actually looked like teenagers and were treated like teenagers. So many of the newer teen soaps represent teenagers as overly sexualised fashionistas (Gossip Girl, Riverdale), so it was kind of nice seeing a teen show where the characters are actually believable as teenagers and to see something a little bit more truthful to the high school experience. The mystery as to why Hannah killed herself also seems to be interesting. I think I am going to stick with the show.