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  1. Also This^^^ They aren’t in control of their eating habit if they give in just because everyone else around them is eating things or having portions that are off limits for them. I forgot who it was, but he made the ridiculous claim that he wasn’t making good progress because he was at home taking care of the kids so he ended up eating the unhealthy foods they do. WTF? Why in the name of everything holy are you feeding your kids unhealthy food? If they are so little they are home all day, their portions of food shouldn’t be that much either.
  2. S01.E08: Metamorphosis 2018.07.08

    Only because I poke around on social media sites from time to time, I discovered that their explanation for this is that Karen did a formal name change, so their insurance company required original documents for everyone on the “new” policy. It still sounds fishy, though.
  3. S01.E08: Metamorphosis 2018.07.08

    I knew there was something rotten in Denmark the way they went about this whole “Leslie’s cancer scare” thing. Interductal papillomas are a thing. I’ve got at least one, I know the deal. 8 years ago they punched 5 holes in my lump (core biopsy), found nothing to worry about and since then it has migrated to just above my nipple. Sometimes my nipple has a little bloodyish discharge. It’s buggy. It’s also a benign breast disorder. However, a breast surgeon might opt to remove the affected duct(s). So when they said she was having “tissue removed”, it was most likely the affected duct(s). Stacey posted on Twitter that they didn’t pay for it, but that their insurance pays for “reconstructive” surgery if breast tissue is removed. So there’s how Leslie got breast augmentation, paid for by Stacey & Leslie’s insurance ~ She needed reconstructive breast surgery.
  4. 3 years ago we went into our local IHOP and in the next booth was a skinny Asian woman with a tri-pod set up next to her table. She was filming/timing how long it took her to eat a plate of pancakes and the employees kept snapping pics of her with their cell phones as they kept bringing out a pound of pancakes on each plate. We thought it was odd, but whatever, it’s Vegas and lots of odd stuff goes on in Vegas. After we got home I happened to catch a news clip with a picture of the woman we sat next to, the local famous professional eater — Miki Sudo— and I said to Mr. Kicotan that if only we were up on the latest things, we would have recognized her when we sat down!
  5. Small Talk: You Do You

    @Muffyn Thank you for your response! I was watching “Who’s coming to dinner?” this morning and was still considering the societal expectations and mores of 1967 when I logged on here and was inspired by some posts to wonder how those on the show who are transitioning as well as their spouses/partner feel about the gender bias and double-standards that women face in 2018. Even though the couples on this show are already in relationships and the movie I watched was about entertaining an interracial marriage (which was still illegal in 17 states at the time it was made) the final monologue from the movie made me think about the folks on the show. “...There'll be a hundred million people right here in this country who'll be shocked and offended and appalled at the two of you. And the two of you will just have to ride that out. Maybe every day for the rest of your lives. You can try to ignore those people or you can feel sorry for them and for their prejudices and their bigotry and their blind hatreds and stupid fears. But where necessary, you'll just have to cling tight to each other and say screw all those people! Anybody could make a case, and a hell of a good case, against your getting married. The arguments are so obvious that nobody has to make them. But you're two wonderful people who happened to fall in love and happen to have a pigmentation problem. And I think that now no matter what kind of a case some bastard could make against your getting married, there would be only one thing worse. And that would be if - knowing what you two are, knowing what you two have, and knowing what you two feel - you didn't get married...”
  6. I’ve always wondered if those who transition from male to female are ever surprised at or prepared for the ridiculous gender bias they are coming into. Situations that some women are just used to, like slut-shaming or how about the forced legal “modesty” of now having to cover up their nipples in places where before, presenting as men, they didn’t even have to think about it? I’m sure they are well aware of the hideous standards of “beauty” that women are subjected to, but what about the “rules” (legal as well as societal) of acceptable female behavior?
  7. ^^^so very much THIS^^^ The whole direction of whatever they are calling healthcare confuses the crap out of me. First visit to ANY practitioner, and this one is an endocrinologist: Patient: ”I’m bleeding from my nipples, one of them from two ducts” no mention of going to any other provider that preformed mammography, sonogram or any other method of testing that would have confirmed multiple duct involvement. Enocrinologist: “In all my 12 years, this is the first I’ve ever seen of this”, takes “sample” (of what exactly? I’m assuming the bloody discharge?), sends patient home with possible referral to “breast surgeon” if lab tests aren’t normal. No mention of or discussion regarding potentially otherwise benign disorders involving nipples that have nothing to do with the breast tissue itself, nor the process by which those are ruled out first, before going to surgery. Endocrinoligist calls patient to inform them they have “abnormal cells” so they will need an appointment with a breast surgeon to remove “tissue”. Still no mention of any other diagnostic methods or possible reasons other than OMG CANCER. If my breasts had ever been treated in the way TLC is putting this narrative forward, I’d have gotten a second or even a third opinion. I thought my eyes were going to stay stuck rolled back into my head. She’s no more than two feet away from Lawren’s blue eyeshadow and mascara with the camera’s rolling...it was cartoonish...not the make-up, just the rest of it. As per usual, TLC makes art out of Bad Form.
  8. Indeed, I agree it was a weak example for side by side comparison. However, in my defense, I meant it as a suggestion that sometimes, the collective we do hold others responsible for providing the “substance” that causes damage to oneself and/or others. A better example for Lisa’s “responsibility” or culpability in relation to James’s situation would be our laws against folks that deal drugs. If it is everyone’s individual responsibility for what they consume to their detriment, be it alcohol, tobacco, food or drugs, then no one would be going to jail as a provider or access point for any of those substances. The alcoholic that beats his wife is responsible, not the liquor store that sold them the booze. The tobacco user that dies of throat/lung/mouth cancer is responsible, not the tobacco company that sold them the cigarettes. My earlier point that wasn’t very well articulated is that apparently the arbitrary “legality”of a substance is what seems to be the moral tipping point that make folks hold addicts or providers accountable. I don’t see Lisa as an innocent victim, any more than I can see the heroin dealer that sold dope to my dead overdosed cousin as a victim as well. My comparison to holding the bartender accountable for the aftermath of a drunk was a bad comparison. Mea culpa.
  9. S06.E19 Doug 2018.06.27

    Indeed. I’m saying it doesn’t take a Masters degree in mathematics to do the calculations necessary to stay within your daily calorie limitations and combine complimentary proteins from non-meat sources in order to get the correct nutritional value from your meals. Even if you add in B12 and iron supplements to your daily regimen because you know going in that the easy complete meat proteins are providing that without any thought or effort on your part, it still isn’t that hard. Doug acted like if he just took meat out of his diet it would be beneficial to his health and weight loss goals-easy. Actually educating oneself about a healthy vegetarian or vegan diet whereby one isn’t deprived of complete proteins, iron or B12 requires a bit of effort, but certainly isn’t hard, unless your definition of hard = spending some time reading & comprehending information about your nutritional needs that is freely published on the internet.
  10. S06.E19 Doug 2018.06.27

    Re: the vegan/vegetarian thing: My doctor told me my gastric problems were because I was allergic to red meat. So I went full on vegetarian for 5 years. I was a vegetarian (no meat, but still dairy) when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter. She did not eat any meat until she was 5 (thanks to an asshole babysitter) and was perfectly healthy without it. Back then we didn’t have “fake meat” like Gardein or Boca in the store. She voluntarily gave up eating meat at 13 after being disgusted with the slaughterhouse practices, and has maintained a vegan diet ever since~she’s 30. Getting enough protein from vegetable, nut and grain sources is NOT hard. What’s hard is when you try to make it taste or look like meat. Humans are omnivores ~ we don’t necessarily need meat for protein.
  11. “According to Colo. Rev. Stat. §12-47-801, a bartender can be held liable if: They knowingly serve alcohol to someone under 21. They knowingly serve alcohol to someone who is visibly intoxicated. This also applies to parents who provide alcohol to minors. If the intoxicated minor gets drunk at a party, then drives and gets in an accident, the adults who supplied the alcohol may be held liable.” Lampert Walsh Law Firm “If you want to file a claim against a bartender or another person who served alcohol, you must do it within one year of the accident. Only people who were injured in the accident, or the family of someone who was killed, can bring a lawsuit. The person who was driving drunk cannot file a claim. A claim cannot exceed $150,000. An experienced motor vehicle accident attorney can explain the details of filing a claim against a person or establishment who serves alcohol in Colorado, also called a dram shop liability claim.” So, if it is actionable to sue someone who knowingly served alcohol to an intoxicated individual why isn’t it actionable to sue a caregiver who knowingly, repeatedly and with a smile on her evil face overfed a 750+ lb. completely disabled and obviously delusional bed-ridden, diapered individual resulting in their death? Because he yells at her and it hurts her feelings if she doesn’t? Because no one else was injured? Because he could still lift the fork/pizza slice/2-liter soda bottle/CHA-NEEESE container that was ever so lovingly delivered within arms reach to his gaping maw? Assisted suicide is completely ok as long as your caregiver is over feeding you to death instead of a physician giving you a lethal cocktail of pharmaceuticals?
  12. But if the bartender sold him that last drink before he left the bar and got into a fatal DUI, is the bartender responsible? “...A vendor can be held liable criminally, however. California Business and Professions Code Section 25602 governs the criminal and civil liability of a third-party for serving alcohol to others. Section 25602(a) makes it a misdemeanor for a third-party to sell or give liquor to a “habitual or common drunkard” or to an “obviously intoxicated person.”...” https://www.alexanderlaw.com/blog/drunk-driving-in-california-when-can-bars-be-held-liable-for-serving-over-intoxicated-patrons
  13. Imagine if James was addicted to something else other than food. Like heroin. If Lisa was the one obtaining it for him, bringing it in through the front door, making it so that if it wasn’t for her he’d not have access to it, I think people might feel differently about their dysfunctional relationship. That’s the sad take-away for folks like James who are as addicted to feeding as a heroin addict is to shooting up. If we didn’t blame the dealer and left it up to the individual to manage their intake and be responsible for themselves, we wouldn’t have laws against heroin. Food, on the other hand, isn’t illegal, so when a food addict gets to 800 pounds and might die from their eating habit a lot of us have zero sympathy for the substance (in this case food) abuser and feel that he’s justified in eating himself to death. Does the legality of the substance change the fact that an addict is an addict and might die from their choices? That just because it is legal, they deserved that overdose that killed them because it was their informed choice to do it to themselves?
  14. No, just a felon of another sort. Burglary.
  15. Thank you. I’m grateful I had the sense to get out before he succeeded in his quest to kill me. Roni most likely got exposed to it the way most of us who have lived through it do~gradually. It starts out as something forgivable, like a heated argument that gets chalked up to a “bad day” or a misunderstanding. Then it progressively gets worse and the next thing you know, you’re missing part of a finger or you’re dead. I learned not to meet my abuser at his level when he cracked a tooth in response to my equivalent of what Roni did and the dentist didn’t believe my story, but took it out anyway without making a report. I jumped up off the couch and did a victory dance for Roni when she left that piece of shit~it is sad she had to lose part of her finger but at least she got out with her life! My father, may he RIP, always made sure I had ice cream money...thanks for your response and the ice cream!