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  1. General True Crime Shows

    I remember that one. The guy slept with her the night before his wedding, "One last time so she would leave us alone". Putz.
  2. My cousin is a SP-ED teacher, and she said she is thankful that she's in a small school district and doesn't have to much deal with it, but she hears horror stories from colleagues. SP-ED resources are stretched enough. :/
  3. That irritates me. My husband and I both used to work with people who gamed the system. The one I worked with had 2 kids with his "fiancée" but his mail went to a PO box. The one my husband worked with had SEVEN kids (all of whom were declared some sort of disabled, so she could be paid to stay home and take care of them.) and his mail went to his parents. The one I worked with didn't make great money, but the one my husband worked with made big bucks. I have zero issue with people who need help at all, but it's people like that who make it hard for those who genuinely need the help to get it, because resources for programs are tapped.
  4. Small Talk: We'll Be Right Back

    Count me in that club. Pappy died, and grammy started to get "odd" at times, but seemed generally OK. It wasn't until we'd find her staring at the wall, and she'd say she was watching TV (but it was unplugged), that we started to put it all together.
  5. She did work for sure, but was more voice over and commercials. I wasn't downing her accomplishments at all. I just think that Heather gets remembered more because she had a steady role on a popular TV show, and starred in 3 movies in a popular franchise.
  6. Small Talk: We'll Be Right Back

    When she was diagnosed, we all educated ourselves. More than anything, we didn't want to upset her. We'd order for her at restaurants (we knew what she liked). We'd try to not force her to make a decision, or remember too much. And NEVER get mad if she repeated herself, etc. This woman would point to an old ad on the wall: "Remember this dad? When you had a pedal tractor when you were little?" Dad: "No". Woman: "Sure you do!"....... This went on and on for a number of topics, including "Do you know where we are?" - NO! He does not know where you are - why even ask him? Woman: "Dad: do you want a cheeseburger? Or a chicken sandwich? Or a hot dog? Or something else?". This went on for several minutes. He finally settled on a cheeseburger. "Dad: do you want ketchup? Mayo? Mustard?........". Then it was "Do you want french-fries? Onion rings? Salad?....". Next it was endless selections of drinks. I just felt like saying "Give him a cheeseburger. Condiment packets on the side. French Fries. Bottle of water." She'd also leave him alone for expended periods of time and you could see how confused he would get. And of course, it was later in the day, and that just makes it worse. Education should be mandatory for family and caretakers.
  7. I guess I just don't see the problem with a grumble about getting up early. I'm not a morning person, and neither is she, apparently. Maybe she's (somewhat too vaguely) trying to draw a comparison (getting up early is a challenge for her, perhaps - it is for me).
  8. Small Talk: We'll Be Right Back

    We lost my grammy to Alzheimer's. It sucked. It took every last ounce of energy I had to not beat the tar out of a woman we encountered in a restaurant recently, who had a father with memory issues. Constantly asking him if he remembered things (stuff from his childhood, for example). Kept giving him choices of food, and getting frustrated when he couldn't make a decision (we always ordered for grammy). I wanted to go off on her, but just got really sad instead.
  9. There is some time lag there. MI would be likely 2 hours ahead of OR. Then to IN, could be another hour (IN is split in 2 time zones), so that could be tough.
  10. The blonde in that ad (who does most of the talking) reminds me of someone, and I can't put my finger on it, and that drives me as nuts as the ad does for it's stupidity.
  11. General True Crime Shows

    My husband had a relative that died in prison (natural causes) as life w/o possibility of parole because he drove the car in a murder committed. He didn't do enough to stop it (even though one of the victims said he saved her life - her boyfriend died at the hands of the other person with his relative), so he was just as guilty in the eyes of the law. While I would never argue that he deserved jail time (the relative never argued that either), it was so very lopsided. They were tried separately in separate venues (on purpose) with separate lawyers. The killer got parole eventually. The relative got life w/o parole. He had a horrible upbringing - horrible abuse, and he was a Viet-Nam Vet who came home horribly broken. While it's not a sole indicator, past does absolutely play a part in things.
  12. General True Crime Shows

    I understand that, but your average person who stumbles on someone they considered a friend for over 20 years (over 2 different jobs) who doesn't give any signs of anything being wrong and just doesn't show up for work one day may have issues as well. I didn't when my grandfather died, but we were expecting it, and he looked peaceful, where he had looked prior like he was in constant pain (his face would contort and he would moan, but he didn't communitcate with us, or open his eyes), so it didn't really bother me. But had I stumbled upon a friend deceased - even of natural causes - because they didn't show up for something and I found them like he did, it would shake me to the core. Three years out, it still haunts him. We all take things differently.
  13. General True Crime Shows

    My husband found his co-worker dead. He died of natural causes, and hadn't been dead even 24 hours when he found him, but still. I saw my grandfather after he died - he was in a nursing home and was in bed and looked like he was sleeping, and I could rationalize that - we were on watch because he'd had a stroke, and was in a coma-like state, so we knew it was coming. He looked peaceful, and he was in his 80's, so again, you can rationalize it. Husband's co-worker was 10 years older than him, so he wasn't really old. When he walked in the house, he was sitting in his recliner, feet up. TV was on. He was covered with a blanket. He was a heavy sleeper, so my husband thought he overslept. You can't really rationalize that away in the same way. It was well known he hated doctors and never went, and so he had undiagnosed heart disease, and had a heart attack in his sleep. But he wasn't old. He wasn't in visible ill health. He just didn't show up for work, and my husband's asshole boss insisted my husband go down there (asshole boss went along, but didn't go in the house). Then asshole boss couldn't understand why my husband never really got over it, and his depression that he already deals with spiraled out of control. He hasn't really been the same since then, and he has had some trouble functioning (he ended up losing that job). My husband said he'll probably never get that image out of his head. That was a natural death, and he'd been gone maybe 12 hours, so nothing had really happened yet in the natural progression of things. I really can't imagine coming across someone who had been murdered.
  14. Favorite Commercials

    Mr. Burns on The Simpsons answers the phone "Ahoy hoy!".
  15. Off the top of my head, I can only remember a few: Max Gail in the movie DC Cab Ron Glass in the badly done 80's remake of The Odd Couple Abe Vigoda in Cannonball Run II